My siblings are all successful in their jobs right now and I envy them for what they have. A lot of times I wish I had what they have. I feel, sometimes, that I'll never be able to reach to where they are. Does anyone have any advice on how to cope?
2006-08-03 07:51:02 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I love my stupid sister and all her stupid annoying phrases, and the way everything she says makes me want to run away screaming. I mean, that kind of love is what makes the freaking world go round ain't it?
2006-08-03 07:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by John Blix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, too have some very successful siblings. They have great jobs and make good money. They work very hard for it, too. I know it's hard --especially when they talk about their trips and all the gadgets and gizmos they buy.
As for coping, I tell myself, I am o.k., too. I don't make a lot of money, but I have money in the bank (not much), a roof over my head, and family that loves and cares about me.
Are your working in a job right now? Do you have a college education? Perhaps, you can work on some goals- like taking computer courses to improve your outlook and job prospects. Just take a few to see if you like it.
Also, volunteer somewhere. You will feel needed and wanted.
You have some special talents .... can you find a way to use those to help you over some over these conflicts?
You may also want to consider talking to a counselor. What you are going through is very typical of families. The counselor may be able to give you some ideas of how to get over some of these obstacles.
You care worth it and you can do it!
2006-08-03 14:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I don't think what you are feeling is jealousy or envy, I think you're not happy with what you have achieved so far and that frustrates you because you see what your other siblings have, It is perfectly normal...believe me sibling rivalry is worst than that. Just take them as an example, as what you wanna be or have some day, see...people in general are different, we achieve different things at our own pace, may be your goals have been a little hard and slow to get but you will make it eventually. Be proud of yourself and move one step at a time.
2006-08-03 15:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I did my whole life, and still to a certain extent, but I'm more jealous about how my sister always seemed to be loved more by my parents and still is as an adult (they even by her a new car every couple of years, but won't even help me buy a used one, stuff like that still gets to me). My advice to you is to try really hard to stop comparing yourself to them, and work at making your own life a success. If you are going through life trying to best your siblings, then you won't succeed. If you are going through life trying to be successful and happy, then things will fall into place for you. Good Luck.
2006-08-03 14:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your jealousy will stunt you from achieving goals. You can take pride in for yourself. If you set goals and keep your eye on them in front of you, then you will keep walking in that direction. If when you walk , you are always looking over your shoulder, or at someone else, you will not move forward, and everyone will pass you by, or worse you will just keep falling on your face. Prayer will help relieve these feelings of jealousy, and also daily observance of all the wonderful things in your life to be grateful for. When we are grateful for our blessings we are naturally happy.
2006-08-03 15:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by wiseroxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you envy them....do you think that they don't envy you.......they have so called successful jobs and what??? do they enjoy their lives???? are they nice people????? i could go on and on....i'm sure there is some aspect of your life that they envy....you might be surprised........
i have 3 brothers, and 1 sister.....and at some point we are all jealous and envious of the other......
2006-08-03 14:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do on how u well u can achieve. dont compare with how well ur siblings do. If you can do this much today to alittle better tomorrow . alittle a day make a mountain someday. all the best dearest.
2006-08-03 14:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ lavender baby ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop spending sooo much time being jealous!!! Ask them to help you, there achievements should motivate you not discourage you. Are you a hater? Are you handicap? If not get off your sorry a** and do something no one likes a jealous envious loser, grow up dummy. Who really cares LOSER?
2006-08-03 14:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on yourself, dear. It's never too late to start changing your life. Start to acknowledge on whatever good things you have and thank God for that. Im sure you do have qualities or skills that your siblings doesn't have.
2006-08-03 14:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by ajeda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone walks their own path. i know it sounds like a cop-out but it's true. your experiences have led you elsewhere, & chances are you are very skilled in things your siblings aren't. to quote baz luhrman -- "don't spend any time on jealousy. the race is long, & in the end, it's only with yourself." be happy with what you are & where you've been.
2006-08-03 14:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by scheherazade717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋