If a couple accepted an RSVP for your wedding, but stopped talking to you due to their spouse feeling uncomfortable for no apparent logical reason, after rsvping, would you think they are coming or no? - (i dont want them to feel obligated)
2006-08-03 07:30:27 · 12 answers · asked by starbucks_girl37 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
its not a weird situation, and i am giving it time till a few days before the wedding, my mom needs a complete head count for favors/food.
2006-08-03 07:43:25 · update #1
I would assume that they are coming. Well, catering and favor-wise, I would plan on them coming. To be honest, whatever the reason they stopped talking to you...they are probably torn about whether or not they should go.
On second thought, it really depends on your relationship with them. Were they good friends? If so, I would give them a quick and very polite call asking if they are still planning to attend and letting them know that they are still welcome. If you want to get into it (which I know you may not considering you probably have a lot going on) I would also just ask them if there is something that you did to offend them. Even if you don't think there is - it will leave the door open for them to tell you what it is that made them feel uncomfortable in the first place and at least you'll know...but hopefully you'll be able to kind of solve things. Good luck!
2006-08-03 10:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I would just plan for them and if they don't show up then don't worry about it. I had some people get ill or have an emergency at the last minute and they could not come after RSVPing. It happens. Just keep planning and don't put a lot of energy into what may or may not happen. Focus on yourself and your wedding.
2006-08-03 07:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by norsktjej1964 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most appropriate thing is to call them and ask. Calling is neccessary for almost all weddings because stupidly not everyone RSVPs. Call and say, "Hey I havent talked to yall in awhile and I wanted to make sure that you still planned on coming to my wedding. It would be nice to have you there but if you have previous obligations, I understand"
That way you were polite and gave them an out if they wanted to take it and you get an appropriate headcount.
NEVER assume when you are talking about people. Its always best and most polite to ask.
2006-08-03 07:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really know what to tell you on that issue, other than to realize that no matter how much you double check on rsvp's and call everyone there will inevitable be some changes. Someone will either show who didnt rsvp or said they wouldnt, and someone will not show. Just be warned. I would personally be prepared for a few extras. That's just me, but we did not do a formal sit-down dinner so it wasnt a big deal for us.
2006-08-03 10:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would plan for them but try to make an excuse closer to the time to check eg say that you're just checking whether they need any vegetarian meals or something. Or try to get a mutual friend to suss out the situation. While it may be wasted money to plan for them if they don't show, it would be a lot worse if they do show and there is no name plate or meal for them.
2006-08-03 07:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be simply to call and ask them. Say, "Hi (insert name here), how are you? "We haven't talked in a while and I need a final head count for my wedding and reception, you guys are still coming, right?"
2006-08-03 07:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by up_all_night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they already said they'd come, and haven't retracted, you'll have to count them in, whether they show up or not.
If you really want to get to the bottom of this, have a heart-to-heart talk with them, or with one of them, and find out what's going on. If they're angry at you, tell them they are still welcome to come to the wedding, but you'll understand if they don't. Unless they tell you they're not coming, you'll still have to count them in.
2006-08-03 09:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't waste any sleep over it. Plan on them attending and if they don't show up someone else can have seconds.
They sound weird so I am not sure why you would want them there anyway.
Good luck!
2006-08-03 07:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since they have already responded, I would included them in the final count just in case. People are weird sometimes.
Good luck!
2006-08-03 08:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would include them in the list as coming because they RSVP'd that way. No matter what you do you will still have extras. Someone you invited said they are coming but don't show up. It is normal.
2006-08-03 08:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋