While I was going through a custody case to try and get my kids back together which was very stressing. I was a total idiot to my boyfriend. And now he just wants it to be over with. Every time we get into an arguement he wants to leave. Should I just let him go, or should I fight for him? If so, how? nothing I have tried has worked. To add more detail....he is the only man I have ever been "truely" in love with. I don't ever want to be without him. HELP!!!!!!
2006-08-03 07:23:07 · 21 answers · asked by Dreamer101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So you have to tell him that he is the only guy you ever cared for that much. You have to understand how HE feels about things and you have to ask him to tell you why he cares for you at all - enough, anyway, to stick around (I doubt he will be able to tell you, so don't push it) - and what it is about arguments that makes him want to give up and leave.
You are going to have to soften up and give at least as much as HE has had to, so find a place where you can both be just yourselves and what you mean to each other. Hold hands, hold hearts ... understand that you each have prickly points, baggage ... whatever ... and agree that when you come across them in each other, you will deal with them with LOVE and caring for the other person.
It's a hard road to travel but if you both want to get there, you will.
If you believe in that sort of thing, then Blessings on both of you.
2006-08-03 07:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, from a guy, tell him you're sorry and admit it, then change. Say that if you ever go berserk on him again, then he can leave and you'll never call him again. It puts you in a position where you have to act right not just talk. And of course show him a great night in bed. I'm being serious here. I had a gf and she had a drinking problem, it got so bad I had to make her quit drinking, cold turkey. Anyways, if you really want to keep this guy, you have to be willing to admit you were wrong and most importantly change.
2006-08-03 07:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by choyryu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.
No one can love you if you make them stay.
Try to talk thinks out...when u get in an arguement try to clam him down and tell him to try to make it make out.
Yea you may feel that he is trying to get it over with, it's not you or the relationship ...it's the yelling.
Focus on ur children and if he is willing to help he would.
Men really hate crying, yelling it's so annoying 2 them.
Go out for a date or so try to bring the passion between u too back alive, show him how much you love him.
From there he will choose to stay with you or not but remember he has a choose you make tell him take his time.
Don't try to be some1 ur not coz than u may get tried of it very soon.
U hate to be alone with children coz ur affriad that no one will love you anymore.
Show him how much u love him...meaning put some energy into it.
You know how it feels to see deep in ones eyes and no he is the one...well if you do that, he may never say no.
tip:Tell him how u feel even if u fall into tears, tell him u love him.
2006-08-03 07:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u think that now, but i bet u will say that like 3 more times or more b4 u finally settle down, anyhow, stop fightin ova the small things, u need to have more good times than bad times to make someone happy, n if u aint happy with urself how can u make someone else happy. u cant. so maybe u should work on urself n being with ur kids more then work on a man.
2006-08-03 07:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you then he should be able to understand what you were going through an be by your side. If he's worth fighting for go for it. Have a long talk an see what the out come is.
2006-08-03 07:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by SHEREE H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Ms. Perfect,
It seems like he senses your love, and is trying to make hints to you to let him go, but is either too weak or too much of a nice guy to make the first move. However, he may not want to be with you. Do you really want to force him to stay to satisfy your desire for him? If not, talk to him, in a serious and extended way, to figure out if he wants to leave.
-j.
2006-08-03 07:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by classical123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
miss perfect is you title, but you have to understand no one is perfect. What I am hearing from you is just stress. Maybe you can make a vacation plan with just him. That way both of you will be enjoying without stress and arguement.
2006-08-03 07:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that anger is the result of the inability to solve a problem. Think in that context before your interaction with him escalates into an argument. In the meantime show him acts of kindness. Cook his favorite meal for him.
2006-08-03 07:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by spackler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say when you truly love some one let them go and if it's meant they'll come back. I fought for mine every time but I wish I would have let him go and seen if he would have come back because I could be moved on by now with him or some other person.
So let him go and see where it goes from there, just don't give up to easy.
2006-08-03 07:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by LovetoLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only YOU can really help yourself, honey.
Be honest, show him that you love him, and apologize if you were at fault. Otherwise... let go of him. Your kids are MOST important, and if he is going to be a prick, and not be there for you when you most needed him to be understanding, he wasn't really worth it to begin with. Don't comprimise your own children and beliefs. You were doing what needed to be done. You ARE a MOTHER for pete's sake. Take care of yourself first, and hang in there.
2006-08-03 07:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by boxergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋