Now I met a guy about 2 weeks ago that I believe I can trust. The problem is, we have only known each other for 2 weeks. For some reason, I am not experiencing those same trust issues with him that I have with all the other men I have dated. Am I just being naive or could this be a sign?
He already wants to take it to the relationship level, but considering we have only known each other for 2 weeks, I told him it's too soon. We've hung out pretty much everyday and he said he's willing to wait until I'm ready, but I'm just wondering why those warning bells of not trusting him aren't going off in my head...
What do you think?
2006-08-03 07:20:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you should continue seeing him and hanging out if you really like him. Give it some more time until your really comfterable. Just worry about how you feel about him. He must really be into you if hes going to wait until your ready, most guys won't do that. If those 'warning bells aren't going off' then that means you might want to give him a chance. Go ahead and see what happens. I think he might actually be worth the chance.
2006-08-03 07:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, if the warning bells aren't going off---why not sing praises?? not all men are lying slugs...every so often you will run into a nice guy. when you get the chance, why not take it? i speak from experience. i have been cheated on repeatedly but the man i am with now (for two years in a few days!!) has been wonderful to me. if you make all men out to be lecherous balls then they will be. personally, i would give this guy a chance. go out on a no-commitment-based date,like to the movies or something little. if you like it, try it again. if at any time you feel that he's being a crab, tell him. and if he still acts like one---well, then he is a crab. you don't need to waste your time.
if you really feel so uncomfortable that you REALLY don't think that you should be dating- then don't. don't push yourself-it can blow up in your face...just don't wait for something bad to happen. you might miss a great opportunity.
2006-08-03 07:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by mami chula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how u can trust him anyway just knowing him for 2 weeks....dont get into a relationship yet because if u start out to soon ur gonna have many surprises about him along the way...be friends their is NO hurry! I get what ur saying about trusting men tho and it has an effect on every relationship u have after that..trust issues...get to knwo this guy first..trust shouldnt be an issue yet until u know him..dont make him go on the list with the other jerks bcuz then u will never be able to trust men if u keep going out with slugs
2006-08-03 07:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still affected by your last relationship. Its good to move on from a previous relationship that was not ideal but you should have some time to yourself to recover first. If you move on to the next relationship in a hurry, you will have what ever issue that was not resolved in the previous relationship affect the new relationship. Take things slow with this new guy. Tell him the truth about how you feel about starting something new. If he thinks your worth waiting for and is understanding then he'll respect that.
2006-08-03 07:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by johnblaze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your honestly ready to put your trust issues in the past where they belong. Obviously there is a reason you trust him. you learn from past experiences. Just keep getting to know him and know that there are some wonderful men out there. It took me a long time to figure that out for myself. Good luck!!
2006-08-03 07:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by Dreamer101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy who is waiting for the day when you say for the relationship, how could you trust him that he is different baby. I know it being a guy that what guys want with opposites. Beware of your self and your dignity. If you are OK with and losing your temptaion too then no one can say any thing. Its completely your call.
2006-08-03 07:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by ajay.krish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Its only been 2 weeks.
2. Him wanting to spend everyday with you is giving you false views.
3. He's saying all the right things.
Its too soon to put your guard down. Way too soon.
2006-08-03 07:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i met my bf on 4th of july i didnt see im until july 7th and we have been together ever since almost 3 yrs, go with what you feel, dont think about it so much just let it happen, its good to be cautious but dont let that get in the way of your relationship, its hard to meet a nice guy now adays! good luck!
2006-08-03 07:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by 2_good_2_be_true;) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he isnt like those "other" men doesn't mean he isnt real. ive met alot of jerks as men but down the path, i met alot of nice guys also to trust. you probably just met someone that you can really trust, im sure its real. if you really believe he is one of those nice guys, believe it. they are out there, just to hard to find .
2006-08-03 07:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by starbucks_girl37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very long but worth the read.
Girl I had the same issues , I prayed about it and left the rest to God . I had 3 misleading relationships in the past which led me to second guess anything a man told me even down to his name ! an eyebrow rasied everytime I thought he was telling me a lie . I confess that I have not always been as careful as I should've been with my heart. From time to time, my desire for love has caused me to leave my heart in the wrong hands. I have committed my heart into the lord’s hands
for safekeeping. Asking him to please help me to stop being so impulsive with what he deem so precious. As I learn to celebrate his love for me, I also learn from the lord’s example what a bridegroom should really be like. I’ve asked him to help me to never settle for less than what he desires for me. As I embrace him as the Lover of my soul, keep my affections in the haven of his own heart. As I rest in his love, I also ask him to make me more discriminating of those who approach me. (you should 2)I ask that he take over this area of my life. Keep me from those he knows would hurt my heart. I invite him to set a hedge around me and keep me from all who would draw me into unfruitful relationships until the day he presents me to the mate that he has selected for me. (this is probabaly why the lights havent went off in your mind as yet)Granting me the discernment to recognize him as he recognizes me. I ask god to cleanse me from the temptation to typecast the men I meet according to what I see. I ask the lord to help me to trust in his knowledge and lean not on my own understanding. I know that he knows what is best for me; therefore I yield to his choice. I think one of my greatest strengths which also may happen to be one of my greatest weaknesses is that I believe in living life in the fast lane; so I move fast and hate wasting my time with anything already destined and bound to failure; and that also includes relationships. I really don’t ask for much but understanding and a piece of mind.
This has helped me alot and now I have found someone to love trust and adore - vice verse hope this can help u as well.
Signed,
1 true Love
2006-08-03 07:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋