i have been in a relation for 3 years & then engagement. i loved him but now sometimes i feel he isn't the person i need he is easy read, and want to leave him although i can't live without him. What happen to our love?
i am afraid to be shocked after marriagewhich is set to be 9/2007
Pls help
2006-08-03 07:17:36 · 3 answers · asked by Tota 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People grow and change all the time. This happens more when you're younger, though.
Are you the exact same person you were three years ago? Do you believe in all the same things? Probably not.
Once you get close to or into your thirties, you really know yourself and what's important to you. You don't change as much.
Now, that's just you - consider your partner is going through similar changes. The two people who got together three years ago might not even be compatible now - or in three years from now!
If you're having doubts about this marriage, do something about it now before you look in the mirror one day and realize you're unhappily married with kids and nowhere to go. If you read the questions here you know it happens a lot.
Why do you think people's second marriages usually work, but the first one's usually fail? It's because of maturity and growth. By the time people get married the second time, they know who they are and what they want, and they know it when they see it.
Right now, you don't know who you are or what you want, so why would you even consider making a commitment for the rest of your life?
Relax and live life a little first. Get to know yourself. Life is LONG...there's plenty of time to be married.
You can live without him...but you'll have to depend on YOU...try that for awhile. You might suprise yourself with how strong you really are.
Good Luck
2006-08-03 07:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you want to leave him, but can't live without him? What has brought this about in you? Has he been faithful, to you, abusive. What are you looking for in a man that you feel he no longer has or doesn't have? What are your expectations of marriage and the way things should be?
2006-08-03 14:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by styymy_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the "feeling" of love is a gift designed to inspire you to work at keeping it fresh and eternal, it's not the total package in and of itself. So, if you never do the work required to sustain your love, all you've got is a bio-chemically induced "feeling" that begins fading the first time you leave your panty hose hanging over the shower, or he leaves the toilet seat up.
2006-08-03 14:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋