before the wedding, is it still bad luck, I have the picture of what I want my dress to look like and its so Beautiful that I'm dying to show it to him, I want him to see how pretty it is, Is it bad if he see's in a picture only?
I'm like a kid with a new toy lol,I cant wait to show the world how pretty it is :-)
2006-08-03 07:17:31 · 19 answers · asked by melinda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you are superstitious, then Yes. But personally I am NOT, and some of my friends who also are NOT still think my fiance should not see the dress ahead of time AT all, but I say, who cares, it's not like he's seeing you on that day, with your hair and makeup and that look in your eyes. Totally different feeling. It's like the difference between you seeing his Tux with him at the Tux store and on that day, yes, the dress is THE DRESS, but many persons do Pre-Wedding shots all time with bride and groom together, so...unless you are really superstitious, (and if you are Rain despite indoor proceedings, and any minor mishap might get you down, not just that), then it's really not a concern. He will not be seeing the BRIDE on her wedding day memory if he sees your dress or sees you trying on the dress even. It's a whole different feeling.
I don't live with my fiance but I have talked to him and we both feel the same way. If your fiance is superstitious or doesn't want to see the dress ahead a time for any reason, respect his wishes.
2006-08-03 07:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would wait to show him - just because I wouldn't trade the moment of walking down the aisle in that dress for anything in the world. Because watching my husband try to take everything in all at once, it was just this great moment.
Technically if you follow the tradition he shouldn't see the dress at all.
Just think about why you want to show him. If you really want to share it with him and he really wants to see it, you should definitely show him. On the other hand if either of you thinks the moment might be more special if you waited, definitely wait.
But that doesn't mean you can't show everyone else! I carried a picture of my dress around for 2 weeks!! I just kept it in an envelope in my purse and made him turn away when I showed everyone. Good luck!!
2006-08-03 10:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I own a bridal boutique, so i see this everyday. I think it is okay to show him a picture, cause if he is like most guys, he won't remember many of the details of the dress for long, because theres not much emotion tied to a model in a dress. And it will be so different when he sees YOU in it. You are his honey, and it has a lot more meaning on you than in some picture... Good Luck
2006-08-03 07:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by ozzysgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*laughing* My boyfriend hates that tradition. He has a great fashion sense and he said that when we get married, he wants to have some imput towards my dress. I told him that maybe we would go out in the very beginning and I'll let him give imput on general styles he likes on me, but the rest he'll have to wait for.
As much as I think it's a silly tradition, I advise you to wait and not show him. No two people look identical in the same wedding gown, and you don't want him to get a picture of you in his head that won't match what he'll see on the big day.
2006-08-03 08:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL
My fiance and I are totally opposite, I want to show him my dress SOOO bad but he won't even look at pictures of it. He is following the superstitions, he has seen cuts somewhat like the one I got in my wedding binder: but not the actual one yet... and won't. So needless to say I am not allowed to take pictures of it.
You can show him your dress, but make sure he wants to see it, he may just want to be totally surprised that day to see you in your beautiful dress !!
2006-08-03 07:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Nichole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say he shouldnt see it before at all. I refused to email the pictures I took (when I was a maid of honor) to the bride of her fitting because I was afraid her fiance would see them. He shouldnt see the dress at all, but then again that's very old fashioned and really just superstitious of me to say. My husband couldnt have cared less. I left my dress in the box until I had it altered and pressed, then kept it at my parents house. He never snuck to care what it looked like, he's not the type
2006-08-03 10:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he won't remember it if you show him- most guys aren't that detail-oriented. He will either react to the picture how he thinks you want him to react or with utter indifference.
You could show up in something totally different and chances are he won't notice unless you change from a sexy dress to a frumpy one.
As for the superstition- that part is up to you- if you really believe it, you can create a self-fufilling prophecy so tread carefully.
2006-08-03 08:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by exclusiveindigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in and show him. It will be much better if he sees you on the day and is awestruck of how great you look (even better if the photographer captures that first look!). My husband and I share everything but there is no way I was going to deprive him of that first glimpse on out wedding day.
2006-08-03 07:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a superstition. And I understand the excitement you feel & how much you want to share this perfect dress with him.
But imagine how he will feel when he sees you starting down the aisle towards him to become his wife. Why rob him of one of his most precious memories. Wait.
2006-08-03 07:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats superficial talk, i am getting married soon and well once last year i showed my fiance my dress online but he doesnt remmeber it; now he wont really let me show him but we are seeing each other before the wedding and taking pictures. i feel more comfortable that way, do it the way you want
2006-08-03 07:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by starbucks_girl37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋