Girls, could you help me figure what this means? Please?

Question

There is this girl I know. I’ve known her for almost two years and we became really good friends. A couple months ago I started too really like her and said that say liked me. We became boyfriend and girlfriend for a couple of months. Well, now I love her and she said that she doesn’t like me anymore. She won’t tell me why she left me and she doesn’t want to talk about it. I really do love her. She’s smart, beautiful, she can sing. She goes to the same church. She has the same views as I do. She’s perfect. Anyways, she said that she doesn’t want to talk about any of it. She doesn’t want to get back together. But I was over at her house doing yard work and I stayed over to play some board games with her family and she wanted to hold my hand, we did. I thought she liked it. But, I have no idea what to think about this. And, she doesn’t want to talk about it and she won’t tell me why she did it. I would really like to get back with her. But I don’t know what she wants. Can you help me?

Thank-you all for the excellent advice. It's just, she is so confusing some times. I wish I could understand her better. She did destroy my heart though. I want her back so badly. I'll do anything or change anything about me for her. She said she loved me for who I am and because I'm so nice. So... what happened? I'm so confused.

Supposedly, we are still really good friends. And I hope that we at least stay that way. I really do care about her. I respect her choice. The problem is, she just doesn’t know. How long should I wait until I should completely believe her choice, because I don’t want to jump to anything on this. I just would like to understand how she feels. I wish she would just come out and tell me. I love her.

Oh ya, I believe that every good relationship should be built on first, friendship and second, trust. So when can I completely trust her on her decision that she had made? Because I already do trust her but she goes back and forth... a lot of the past few weeks. Help? Please....

Answer 1

I was going to say that she probably has another man in mind... but let's not jump to conclusions shall we? umm.. Maybe she's going through something that she does not want to share with you... She has shown some affection for you in front of her own family, so something else must be bothering her.. try asking her family, cause usually they can help her cope with the situation. Maybe she is struggling with her emotions. These conflicting actions are at least getting better, right? But you guys are not together... she seems to protest your questions and therefore, if you have already shown how much you love her, then maybe you have to give her some space. I hate using that term, because I believe that a relationship shouldn't hide secrets, at least ones affecting everybody, like you and her. However, being that you guys broke up, maybe she still has some feelings for you... you know that loving feeling... oh no not that song... I mean, feelings as a friend... she might be unconciously comforting you from the breakup, perhaps she might be unconciously comforting herself...

I wish I knew more, but I just do not know if she's actually trying to send you signals of a smooth transitional breakup.. don't get mad about that... because you two have already done that.

Anyways, be patient if you really love her and try not to analyze things too much, because it might dissapoint your expectations or hurt you. Take it as it comes.

At the same time, I feel that if you don't say something to her about the status of your relationship, then it's just going to be an uncomfortable neutral situation in which you both tug and push away affection for each other. I think you should consider that notion...

I wish I could say more to help you out.

Take Care...

I was reading your question again and I have to add this part in please: Hey you guys started as friends right? When this friendship goes to a girlfriend/boyfriend realm, it's just not the same sometimes.. That transition might make her feel that you guys aren't doing things you used to do as friends, so perhaps when you were over at her house playing board games with her and stuff, it reminded her of the friend she had... I don't know just a theory.. I'm probably thinking too much into this... I should take my own advice..
:)

Answer 2

For whatever reason, she does not feel as strongly about you as you do for her. She does not want to be in a relationship with you but she probably likes the attention that you give her. You are her security blanket. She'll cuddle up with you when she's lonely or has nothing better to do, but if someone else comes along or she just gets tired of you, she'll discard you. She keeps saying that she doesn't want to talk about it because she probably doesn't have a legitimate reason other than she just doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. She may be trying to spare your feelings and not come straight out and say it. You have to get a grip and move on. She is toying with you and your feelings will be continuously hurt if you continue to pursue her. She doesn't deserve your adoration or persistence. Some other female out there would be glad to have a man that loves them and sings their praises but she is taking you for granted. You are the only one that can do something about this. You can tell her that you understand and that you are moving on. Then do it. She may try to do something that will keep you on a string but don't fall for it. She's not the one for you. The right one would never leave you wide open in such uncertainty and doubt. Keep your head up and believe in yourself. Better things are in store for you.

Answer 3

You may want to give this girl her space. Which means space. No contact. It's the hardest thing to do, but giving her some space may make her finally fess up to what she's doing to U right now. She's leading U on. And she knows you'll allow it becuz UR in love with her. Back off. Stay away. Give her one week no contact. NONE. Then ask her one more time. If she decides that she doesn't want to tell U still, then leave her alone. She may be going thru something extremely personal and sometimes girls don't know how to deal. One week. No contact. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well, maybe she's just insecure about certain things. Maybe she was trying to make a point with her family about something and you had to be there. I really don't know. There's this guy I liked for 11 months, I think he likes me now, a year later after we became enemies. He won't tell me why he doesn't want me talking to his friends. It's crazy stuff. I think he might ask me out and ask her out and cheat on us. Some girls are like that, just keep your head up hig hand hope for the best.

Answer 5

I think your a really nice guy and any girl would be Lucky to have someone like you. You just didn't walk away you wanted to stay and make it work you know figure it out.

Your one of the good guys we're always searching for, I don't know what her problem is maybe she'll come around if not move on and don't change who you are, you won't have any problem finding another girl.

I need more guys like you where I live.

Good Luck

Answer 6

Women = Confusing

But luckily, they're not always impossible to figure out...but in this case :P.
Anyway, maybe she just had a crush on you, and maybe thats passed now. Or maybe the thing with her family means that she still likes you, but she'd rather stay friends with you. If you really care about her, wait untill she wants to get back with you, and don't ask her why she is doing what she is. Eventually you'll know, and you'll feel stupid about asking.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

She sounds like she was infatuated with you, but not in love. She prob doesnt want to be tied down right now, but she held your hand because she likes the attention you give her. Girls love to be admired, they love attention. She might not know why she held your hand either. Maybe she needed an ego boost, maybe she still is attracted to you but just not wanting to date you right now. Focus on something else, meet people, develop interests for yourself right now. Give her time to mature, and if you two are a good match eventually it'll happen, if not, try and let it go

Answer 9

I am sorry to hear what youhave to say. Sounds like u got a broken heart from her. It can be hard for you to understand. Like My mom kept saying that God has plans for everyone . I know u love her so much more than she can love you. Give her some spaces and see how things go .. Maybe start to date her again for fun activities. Maybe she was seeing you and someone else at the same time. Maybe she enjoys a great freindship with you and didnt mean to drag you along for a true relationship. Just be your true self to show her what kind of man she is missing out. Dont get too crazy or threat her. She would stay away from you if u do lot of werid ideas to stalk her. Just call her to say hello and see what s up with her.. ask her to go to the movies and act like a freind .. She may change her mind or tell you her reasons by nature when shes ready. maybe its good chances for u to start looking for other girls for dating moments. Maybe she will see that there are other girls who are interested in you ..she might will chase you a bit to get ur attention then you both can work out the relationship to ensure and secure it for life.

Sometimes women can be mystery at times. I know my Fiance gets crazy with me when im not cooperating with him. I can see that he really loves me and never gets ANGRY at me. Im always angry at him about small silly things. He was soo Patience with me. I felt bad because I feel that he doesnt deserve me.. He said to me I deserve you in everything that you gave me is Happiness. I never seen him so Angry with me when i need spaces from him . H e gave me all the time that i need and was willing to wait for me. Even there are lot of girls that wanted him. I shared my feelings like 8 months later about our relationship.. He listened and understood why i was like that .. He said to me " I STILL LOVE YOU" We got back together and everything went well .. I know that GOD is with us for many reasons. So god knows what is best for you with her or without her.
think positive!

Answer 10

my opinion is that even though i do not know how old you are, she is scared... scared to fall in love so young, and scared of what you do to her, maybeeven scared of how much her family like you... you keep pressuring her to talk, she will move further and further away she will talk when she is good and ready... but you do have to make sure she knows that when she is ready to tell you what is going on you will listen with an OPEN MIND and an OPEN HEART!!! She may be hiding something, but i am guessing it is just that she is trying to protect herself and her heart... it is easy when you are young to date alot, it is not easy to allow yourself to care enough to love... you are going to have to be patient and see what comes, but i am pretty sure she is still there... especially if she still like the way her hand feels in yours, and you can still feel the chemistry and the connection when you are around her.