I am pregnant and the father of my child is always in trouble with the law, never works, and doesn't care about me. He already has a 13 year old he doesn't take care of. I'm thinking it would be better for all involved if I just didn't tell him. I already know I should have thought about that before I got with him, so please don't point that out. I just want to know how people feel about that. If it's wrong of me.
2006-08-03 06:58:10 · 8 answers · asked by tammyb752001 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Personally, I'd leave him far far behind, and never look back. You don't need that kind of stress in your life, and your baby doesn't need that kind of bad influence and heartache..
The tougher question is...what will you tell your child when he/she asks where their daddy is? I wish you all the best, and I hope you find a good guy eventually that will love your baby as his own. =)
2006-08-03 08:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ash 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
absoultely not...The most important people are
know yourself and the unborn child. If this guy
is worthless (and it sounds like it) he will only
cause you future stress, heartache and pain.
That is unhealthy for yourself and your new baby.
Most men are selfish! By all means follow your
gut feeling and keep this (jerk) out of your life, you
and your child will be much better off with out him.
TRUST ME!!! 10 years from now, you will have a
new life, family and house / car. He will still be the
same dead beat with no job and not taking care of anyone.
If you list him on the Birth Certificate you can go after him
for child support, but that system is easily beaten and you
will never get a dime from him.
You should not care what others think, but if you do, please
know they will think the world of you 3 - 10 yrs down the line
for rasining your child in a healthy & stable environment.
Good luck to you and take care of yourself and your baby!!!
ONLY - not anyone else.
2006-08-03 07:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by desire4reallove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him. If he has a child already that he doesn't take care of, what makes you think he's going to take care of this one? Best to just move on and lose the guy. Sounds like he'd make a horrible parent. Do you really want someone like him influencing your young, impressionable baby?
2006-08-03 07:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you have an obligation to think only about your health and that unborn child. Do what you think is right, and follow your heart. Whatever your decision keep in mind that stress is not a good thing to have during pregnancy. I just want to mention one thing...if you don't tell him could he possibly find out by seeing you once you start showing?
2006-08-03 08:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by littleshorty9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him.Then after the baby is born get a court order for child support.
2006-08-03 10:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by wvcountrygirl_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well uh thats kinda hard to give an answer to, but i think that you should tell the dad. i mean it is his child. but telling him doesn't mean he has to be involved. But its up to you, whatever you think is best for you and your baby. well good luck.
2006-08-03 07:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by ~ goth ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell him either. If he is always in trouble you do not need that in your life and the babies
2006-08-03 09:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by jingles_200 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him before it's too late because if you get stuck he will be mad at you for not telling him.
2006-08-03 10:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by gabbyogden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋