I went out with this girl for almost three years, for the most part our relationship was great. we worked together and during that time we saw each other everyday. she switched jobs and the time we saw each got less and less and the relationship suffered. when she was forced to make a more serious commitment to me she ran giving me the I love you but am not falling in love with you line. i still talk to her and she still cries when we hang up the phone. a piece of me wants her back but I know that this might not be the best thing for me. i met this girl a few weeks after the breakup.. we hung out a couple times and talk on the phone. after every conversation with this person, I get more sad about not being with my ex. why am I feeling this way and why does spending time with someone else who is really nice make me miss my ex more..any advice
2006-08-03 06:57:59 · 5 answers · asked by boomer627 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You still love her, and she never really gave you a answer why. She sounds scared to make a full commitment to you, maybe you two should sit down have a heart to heart talk. Is there something in her past that is causing her to be so fearful of commitment? She sounds as though she still loves you. Talk it out if she needs a little more time give it to her. If you love her then you will give her that time. And you really should not be jumping into another relationship so fast. That shows her that she really didn't mean much to you. If you love her you will work at it.
2006-08-03 07:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 22:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be making you sad because you were expecting the same characteristics in the 2nd girl that you found in the 1st one. Or maybe a bit of guilt? If this 1st girl cries everytime you talk to her but tells you these lines then she might be messing with your head ( I hate to tell you that) or she might be confused too. I think you both need to stop talking to each other for a while and figure out what is going on in your hearts and heads. If you still want her afterward tell her but if she keeps giving you bs lines then you need to let her go permanantly or you will keep suffering.
2006-08-03 07:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also had this problem....I was with my boyfriend for two years and we are deeply in love but he did something that hurt me so we broke up. While we were broke up I started dating this other guy that was so good to me, but the only problem was that I always thought about my ex when we were together. I think it was a guilt thing, like I was doing something wrong. I think it was just my heart telling me that its not over between me and my ex yet so don't start moving on!! And I followed my heart and was just friends with that guy and my ex and I got back together within 2 weeks. We are still together 2 years later!
2006-08-03 07:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by crystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I search for something
To compare you to
Thought long and hard for a simile true
Now I'm suddenly aware
In the quest you're beyond compare"...
i know how you feel...
they can't take the place of the void left behind by your former love...
don't compare...that's my advice..be open minded and try releasing that leash
2006-08-03 07:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Schizm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋