OK! my bf and i have been together for a long time...we plan on getting married kids the whole 9 yards...but he's VERY VERY protective of me. I have always been abused thruout my life physicaly and mentally and i keep gettin this feeling that our relationship will end up not working because of my past. I want this to work so bad but idk if he can handle everything that's happened to me. He has always been there for me but everytime he finds out about sumthing that's happend he gets that much more protective and we've almost broke up like twice and everytime he tells me he can't live w/out me and that he'll die if i leave him and that ya know. idw to hurt him but i feel like the only way he can be truly happy is w/out me there. Idw to screw up his life by putting my problems on him. I'm a very independent person and i hate taling about my problems i really do but i feel like i have nowhere else to go..so i guess just leave as much detail in ur answeres as possible and i thank you alot!
2006-08-03 06:52:17 · 1 answers · asked by k_ann_rodeovbchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, you never give anyone too much information on you past, they can and probably will hold it against you eventually.
Second, if someone tells you that they will die without you, that is not flattering to you that should be a Red Flag for you. No one loves you that much. They are obsessed by you and that is never a good thing.
Third, and most important, if you are as independent as you claim then you know that noone can save you from yourself or your past, but you. Seek professional help to help you deal with your past, then deal with the fact that this boyfriend's behavior screams(abusive and controlling), not over protective. Hopefully, you will get the help you need to make the decisions you need to make for you to find happiness. I'll be praying for you.
2006-08-03 07:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋