Frustrating music ordeal. Help please?

Question

My fiance and I are really relexed when it comes to our music. Our DJ doesnt have any of the music we wanted (bob dylan, pink floyd, devendra banhart, stuff like that) so we burnt him a CD to play just that music. Well, my sister is being all anal about the music we want. I gave her a CD of our music we picked, and all she could say was it was weird. I mean, ya its before our time, but thats what we like. Well, She called the DJ, and now is having him mix in all this newer stuff (shakira, brittney spears, nsync type stuff) and my fiance and I honestly hate this stuff and dont want it played at our wedding. What do I say to my sister and now the DJ?? She has it in her mind that our music sucks, and the DJ thinks we only picked that music because we didnt want to offend anyone with our "real" music... but this is OUR music we listen to... im really frustrated.
Any songs that I could possibly play to make my fiance and the party guest happy?

Thank you everyone

devendra banhart's music is played during the fat tire beer commercials... thats just a small sample of his stuff they've played on that commercial, but its more folk rock... but it can be alittle weird for some people (he has a song about having chinese children in every country LOL).. its mainly all accoustic, and has a real raw sound to it.

Answer 1

UNLESS she is paying the DJ you tell her to back off right now and when she has her wedding she can do whatever she wants. Its your wedding and you want to enjoy it and its your right not to hear any music you hate. Your sister is WAY over stepping her boundaries and you need to be on the phone IMMEDIATELY with that DJ and tell him DO NOT TAKE REQUESTS and give him the DO NOT PLAY LIST. Who gives a flying f**k what your sister thinks. You need to call the DJ right now and let him know what you want and how its going to go. That doesnt make you a bridezilla but your are letting your sister walk all over you. Dont let it happen. Call the DJ and fix it. The do not play list is just as if not more important than the play list. Good luck

One more thing. Your DJ should be competent enough to know a good mix of songs for the crowd. It their job to entertain your guests not yours. Let him play your songs but allow him a little wiggle room to get the crowd going. Anyone can play CDs but you PAY them to entertain. Make sure you do that "do not play list" and tell him "do not take requests" Its your day your way and your sister has no right to tell you otherwise.

Answer 2

Honey, you are HOSTING a party, that means that you have to make it fun and upbeat... no offense but Pink Floyd might send your guests out the door early.

Unless you want your guest sleeping over the tables and no one on the dance floor, I suggest for you to be a little more flexible with your music selection. The idea of having a DJ is to get to people motivated to dance and have a good time, honestly, Bob Dylan is something that you can play at home by the fireplace but not suitable for a wedding reception.

Your music is NOT weird or boring, is just unnapropiate for a wedding. I would not recommend Britney Spears or Nsynch either as this is not of your preference and doesn't represent you as a couple.

The problem here is that you and your sister are not letting the DJ do his job that he is getting paid to do. Let the professional DJ handle the situation as he knows best how to make a party lively.

Tell the DJ to play what he thinks is appropiate and ask him for a sample of songs that he might be playing. Approve it in advance so they won't be no surprises. By all means, save Banhart for your living room.

Congratulations and good luck

Answer 3

I love your music as well, but think is most of that stuff good dance music?? It really isn't, it's great music, but not stuff that's going to get people bounding out to the dance floor going "Man I LOVE this song!"

Your sister needs to back off, you're hiring the DJ, it's your wedding, enough said. But if your DJ is a good one, he or she will mix up the music anyway, throw in some oldies for Grandma and Grandpa, and toss in some of the hip hop for the younger crowd. A good DJ will mix this up very well, and will know how to play music to keep people on the dance floor. He/She will also know what music to start playing to get the party jamming a bit if it's kinda dragging. You want that. If you have songs you specifically do not want played, make a list and give it to the DJ, and same with music you specifically want played. But your sister really does need to back off, the DJ SHOULD know to take the requests from the person PAYING him, there's a saying...too many cooks spoil the soup. The best solution is a compromise here. Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

This is your wedding, and you have a right to the music you want.

However, I suggest you compromise on this one a little. Most wedding bands or DJs play a variety of music, anyway. Think of your guests, and what they want to dance to.

Have a half-hour, or two fifteen-minute sets, of the stuff the young people like (Shakira, Spears, Nsync), and also a half-hour or two fifteen-minute sets for the old folks (Beatles, Motown, doo-wop, even a little big band), and even throw in a set or two of Latin American music. If you want, pick the songs within those styles that you find least offensive. The majority of the music, of course, will be the stuff that you love: Dylan, Pink Floyd, et al. (And who is Devendra Banhart, pray tell?)

Enjoy your wedding!

Answer 5

Your sister needs to back off and have her own wedding. Thank her for her imput, but tell her that you and your finace are handling the music arrangements yourselves.

Contact your DJ and say that you want to approve the playlist (just the songs, not the order and expect that you will have to do this a couple weeks before the wedding) and that under no circumstances is it to be added to. Explain to the DJ that you don't want family making his/her life hard and if anyone calls about the music, to refer them back to you or just answer with "uh-huh." If your DJ balks, I would scout around and see if you can find someone else.

Answer 6

I'd just call the DJ and tell him unless he's getting the money from your sister, you'd better hear what you gave him. Ask him for some selections that he thinks will go well with what you want that other people could dance to. Then, I'd tell your sister although you appreciate her help you have canceled her song selections with the DJ - she can play them at her wedding. Tell her you asked him for dance songs that would blend well with the ones you want to hear. And ask her not to call and re-arrange your plans. Tell her you appreciate her thought fullness, but it's your day and you'll have it the way you want it. Ask her to do a couple of other things for you at that time so she can still feel like she's helping - but be sure to give her VERY SPECIFIC guidelines....

Aren't families GREAT? :)

Answer 7

Tell your sister to back off . . . it's YOUR wedding, not hers and you can have any music you want played. If she doesn't like it, she can go plan her own reception somewhere else!

Sorry about that! I listen to the same stuff you do and I don't see a problem with your selections at all (I even have "Money" as my ringtone on my cell). Try adding some big band stuff for the older people and maybe some of the tamer newer stuff for the younger group, but don't cave in on what you want . . . it is YOUR wedding afterall.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Unless your sister is paying for the DJ she has no business telling him what music to play. I gave our DJ a CD of music, as well as a list of must-play songs that I liked as well as my husband. Happens that my brother loves the same music -- we had everything from metal to country, punk to dance. I made sure that I requested NO pop music (brittnay, hillary, nsync, etc..) If this is your money that is paying for him, you are the consumer have all rights to tell him what YOU want. You don't have to please everyone.

Answer 9

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