Would it be better for a Christian gay person to try not to be gay yet unhappy, or would it be better...?

Question

... or would it be better for him/her to accept their feelings and be happy,relationship-wise, while still believing in God? Basically, is it better for a God-believing gay person to make themselves miserable due to God's laws, or realize that their choice to be happy might be going against God? Is that what God would really want for them... to be miserable? The argument that they would not be miserable because they would be following God's way... sorry, that just doesn't cut it, imo. If a person is forcing themselves to do something against their own nature, it's NOT going to be a pleasant experience. Views, opinions, discussion?

Also, to note I'm Wiccan- so nothing wrong with being gay in my mind. I'm just curious to see how people in other religions (oh, alright, mostly Christians), react to this question.

Answer 1

There's no such thing as a gay Christian.

Answer 2

I have quite a few friends currently struggling with this very issue.

As I get older I believe less and less in the god of the Bible. Because there are so many contradictions, mainly.

The Christian remnant of me believes that God creates us all as He wanted us to be - whether that is tall or short, red hair or blonde, green eyes or blue, male or female, gay or straight or bi or whatever.

But how can a God that creates you (forknows you in your mothers womb) create you to be something he 'abhors'?

That just one reason I am believing less and less (after twenty some years) in the Judeo/Christian God.


And if there IS a Christian God, I believe in Universal Reconciliation. If Christ was the Son of God, then He died to save all people. He died for even those who don't believe in Him. And if it is God's will that all men be saved, then all men will be saved whether they like it or not. So on some level it only matters in this life whether you believe or not, rather than the next. So then it wouldn't matter anyway.


And in that same context, a sin would be a sin would be a sin. That means homosexual sex (if there is a Biblegod and it IS the correct 'religion') is no more wrong than lying or speeding on the highway (breaking the law of the land).



Hope that helps. Sorry if I just gave you more to be frustrated about... :oP

Answer 3

Personally, I believe that we were created by a higher power to be the way we are. I believe that this higher power made people and animals gay or straight or bi at birth. So, if being as you were made and being happy is right for you, it's right in the eyes of the higher power. Love is love no matter which gender you love. I don't believe for even a second that any God would create people one way and then ask them to deny it.

I've known many gay people who have tried to hide how they were created just to be on God's good side and none of them were happy. I also know many gay people who are deeply religious and deeply involved with same-sex partners and they're very happy. They aren't out breaking any laws or hurting anybody else, so what's the big deal. Until I become God, which is highly unlikely, I refuse to judge someone for who they love.

Answer 4

You're caught between a rock and a hard place.
Being gay doesn't exclude believing in God. It might, though, exclude you from worshiping at a strict, fundamentalist, Christian church.
You want people to tell you what to do, but there is no answer for that. I know, because I am gay and was raised Catholic (yeah, I know some christians believe catholics aren't christian, but we do believe in christ, so that makes us christian). Since the Catholic church has strict views on homosexuality, I left. It wasn't easy because I liked being catholic, and I care about the church, but I won't be a hypocrite for the church either. I believe in God, worship privately, mind my own business and live life as best I can.
i don't know what god wants or thinks about me. I don't ask myself that. I believe in resurrection, and that god is merciful. If my choice is so wrong, then I'll go to hell, but if god doesn't mind it, I know that my presence will surprise a lot of religious zealots who think that they have it made already.
if you don't want to give up your religion, then practice it with all your heart. Don't do it half assed because the guilt and the doubts will torment you.

Answer 5

God wants us to love. He would never turn his back on someone because of their love of another (consenting - for those who would use the pedophile argument) human being.

I always think it's sad when people say there is no such thing as a gay Christian. There are some virtues to the religion (though most people don't seem to portray them well). If someone saw some good in following at least parts of the "Word of God", then I say they should go for it and gain whatever knowledge and understanding they can from it, not abandon it for one aspect. I guess you wouldn't exactly call them a Christian, but I'd say they are more Christian than anything else.

Answer 6

You can be gay and a christian. Im a gay christian buddhist- if that makes any sense.
People can be gay and still have excellent values, christian values even.
Its about how good a person you are and how you treat other people.
As well, you need to have self respect and be true to yourself before you can be repsectful and good to other people.
We are in an evolving world.
And as the Dalai Lama said when questioned on homosexuality- if you have two consenting adults in a loving harmonious relationship and no one is getting hurt- how can that be wrong?

Answer 7

Homosexuality is a normal human variation like height or IQ, it is not a choice or a sin, anyone who tells you that homosexuality is a choice or a sin is a liar or a rogue with a personal homophobic agenda to push ...sometimes they will falsely use scripture (highly creatively) to back themselves up... they are simply liars and bigots.

Here are some gay Christians, The Lesbian & Gay Christian Movement: http://www.lgcm.org.uk/

Answer 8

there is nothing like a gay christian a christian is not supposed to be an homosexual cos the bible tells us that it is very wrong that was the reason why sodom and gomorah was destroyed by God if u know u want be a christian u have to follow is commandments homosexuality is a sin to God so since u have accepted Jesus christ u have to live that behind and pray to god to help u overcome it i pray God helps u

Answer 9

Each person has a choice to make. Am I going to do what I want to do, or am I going to do what God's word says to do.

Have I always done what God's word asks me to do over what I want to do? No I haven't. But I've learned lessons about going against His admonitions. In the long run, I am never benefitted by choosing my own desires over what He asks of me.

I cannot choose for another how to live. I can only "walk out" my own life with God and pray that He leads me in His righteousness, asking Him to help me deny myself, as Jesus asks us to do. What another person does...even another Christian brother or sister does...that is between that person and God.

Answer 10

If they truly know Christ and love the Lord, they will want to follow His Word. Out of love and respect to Him.....to not do so, is to basically rebel and spit in His face....that is not love.


PS That is kinda like saying I am a Christian but I am happy (or sexually fulfilled) when I murder, so God will understand if it makes me happy. OR It makes me happy to be high, so God will understand that I am doing it for my own self-desires....UH HUH I don't think so.....

Answer 11

I think this person should reolize that the bible was written by man in a time when they thought that men had a finite ammount of sperm. Thats the only reason the bible says anything negative about homosexulaity. I think this person should stay strong in their faith in god and also be happy in their relationship.