Why do we fall inlove with wrong person?

Question

for the past 15 yrs of mature age I've never have any serious relationship till late last year when I met a lady that I really love so much, ut till now she never try to want to go into relationship with me she admit to like me but nevr love me. Pls I'm askin dis question ...cos I've come accross many who fall inlove with wrong person but now its happenin to me

Answer 1

well already the problem i see in this equation is that she TOLD you she didn't want a relationship, and she could never love you. you are trying , trying, giving, giving your love to someone who most likely will not change. there's a teeeensy beensy chance she can change if u are persistent enough, but are you going to be able to withstand the torture? what u need to do, is remember that you are a great guy, a good boyfriend, someone who can be committed, loving, and wonderful. now, *knowing* that, why are you wasting your time on someone who doesn't want a relationship w/ you?? don't stop until you find someone who has the same goals as you, the same mentality, and same ability to love and commit as you do. set your boundaries for what kind of woman you want, and don't lower them. if you do, you will find yourself becoming a slave to someone who doesn't appreciate you. letting this woman go doesn't mean you don't love her, but it does mean you are going to find someone who will take care of you *just as* you would take care of your woman. ther'es nothing wrong w/ being picky about who you're going to spend the rest of ur life with! if she's not into you, don't try to force it if it's killing you!! try your best..if it's not working, it's not cuz u'r a failure, it's cuz she's not good enough for you, or not ready for commitment. u can't change her, u can only change yourself. take care of urself, ur appearance, ur knowledge, ur ability to maintain relationships w/ family and friends and strangers, be happy and confident of what kind of man you are. that way, when u meet a woman who is worthy, you will be able to be on the same page and work together towards a goal, instead of trying to MAKE someone feel the same way u do.

Answer 2

Had the same problem with this lass I fell head over heals in love with, and she didnt want a relationship, just friends then she did then she didnt so on and so forth, really got screwed up.
Sorry to say this so very sorry there is no easy way out of this situation.
It hurts a little for a while, that's for sure but it does get easier in the end and before you know it the feelings have been forgotten.

Good luck...

Answer 3

Time is needed to really get to know a person for a serious relationship, and this isn't how it happens in most cases. Rushing into relationships expecting things instead of working toward certain things together can cause disappointments from misunderstanding of the relationship. Being candid, (honest) about what's expected in a relationship from the beginning of one can help prevent a lot of pain.

Answer 4

"God allows us to meet the wrong ones so when we meet the right one we can appreciate him/ her."

I may not have the quote word for word but I'm sure that you get the idea. I always felt as though I am one of those ppl who end up old and lonely because I can't find the correct person for me. I still feel that way sometimes even though I have my bf, the oly difference now is I am 8 months pregnant with my son, so no matter what I will have my son.

Anyways, love is never perfect, and when you love someone and it is not returned you will feel hopeless. My advice is to keep giving love, not 'falling in love', but loving ppl. Growing to love ppl opens you to hurt but it also opens door for love to be returned to you. I think once love is unconditional it will never go unrewarded.

Good luck in your quest for love.

Answer 5

I think if you fall in love with someone, it is not the wrong person. I believe there is one person out there for you even if at first they seem all wrong. If you are in love and that person feels the same way about you, then it was meant to be. Love concurs all, so if you have to change up your routine a little, it will be worth it.

Answer 6

everything happens for reason so by falling in love with the wrong person, helps us to determine and to find the ideal person to fall in love the next time...love is blind that we cant see the mistake till it bleeds us...

Answer 7

maybe it's not love maybe u just have deep feelings for this person. u fall in love 7 times before u meet ur solemate.

Answer 8

You just can't make someone love you, they either feel it or they don't, but that doesnt mean you can't have a close relationship as friends..

Answer 9

It happens to us all & helps you to become a stronger person.

Answer 10

Because at first - love is blind - don't you know that if you are mature ?