My fiance is Jewish and I am an atheist, and we are getting married next year. I am not going to convert to Judaism, so we are going to have to have a civil rather than religious ceremony. However, we want to keep a good balance of the traditions and cultures we have grown up with.
What should we be keeping from each ceremony AND reception, and do you have any advice or pointers as to how to get the best of both worlds (and include everyone)?
Thanks
2006-08-03 06:03:56 · 7 answers · asked by Ellie Asdf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I had a jewish and planning to turn Jewish friend get married. Her family was Catholic. They discussed all the rituals from each religions "traditional" ceremonies and then did what they felt right doing together. They liked the symbolism of circling each other and smashing the glass, so they included those. They also put an explanation of the rituals in the programs, so no one felt like they didn't understand or weren;t included. I thought it worked great!
2006-08-03 06:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by kermit 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What a lousy, nasty comment, acmeraven.
I don't really see how you can combine a civil and religious ceremony in this way. The moment you bring in a Jewish tradition, it's not a civil ceremony anymore, is it? Maybe you could have something that looks like a chuppa (a type of canopy), or perhaps your husband could break a wineglass as is done in Jewish ceremonies, but I don't know if these things would really be allowed.
2006-08-03 06:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it kinda a jewish and well make it ur way too. What would u like in the wedding and what would your fiance want in the wedding too! Some jewish traditions you ight find fun to do and your fiance might find watever u want fun 2. Just comprimise the more religous things just don't do and if theres something thats 2 athiest don't do and both of u can have a happy wedding!
2006-08-03 06:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rufino C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What both worlds? You had better reconsider this whole marriage thing as I doubt a god fearing and a godless person will last very long together.
2006-08-03 06:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your best bet is to discuss it with him , maybe you should get married under a hoopa,as for atheisim im not that familiar with that beleif so you fill in that part pick something important to you and go for it ,by the way congradulations and good luck!
2006-08-03 06:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you & your fiance need to talk about. It is strictly your choice.
And will need to find an Officiant that will perform an interfaith marriage. Not all will.
2006-08-03 06:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both mention God.
2016-03-26 21:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋