im gonna be a dad but in like, 8 months but still im really nervous. i dont know wat to do! last night i had a dream where i was taking care TWO babies! n i couldnt take care of them cuz they kept peeing everywhere! they wouldnt stop peeing!!!! it sounds stupid, but im freaking out.
2006-08-03 06:01:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is normal for men, and women to have doubts. All we can do is the best we can. BTW, when you change the baby's diaper...especially if it is a boy, lay them sideways in front of you and not so their penis is facing you...my husband learned that the hard way...lol, and then if they are just wet, slip the dry diaper under the wet one and when you take the wet one off do a quick cover up with the dry one!
2006-08-03 06:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No one is automatically the perfect parent when they bring their new addition home from the hospital. They don't come with an instruction manual, either. This is something you learn as you go. There will be mystakes, yes of course, but what matters most is your desire to provide for them what they need. I would suggest buying the book, "What To Expect When You're Expecting" It's a great pregnancy book that goes month by month during the pregnancy and lets you know what to expect, how you might feel, and there is a whole chapter in there for expectant dad's and what your role should/will be, and how to treat your pregnant wife, and how to understand her issues. And also, go to the child birth classes, those are great education tools that are available for you. All these things will help you get ready for your new baby. Congradulations!
2006-08-03 06:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, my husband felt like that too. It is scary, and it is hard being a parent, but you will be surprised at how much just comes naturally to you. In the meantime, before your baby is born why not read some parenting books and try to learn as much as you can about babies so that you fell more prepared? This might help you to calm down and gain some confidence. You'll be fine! Good luck!
2006-08-03 06:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is normal. It's a big responsibility and it's natural to be overwhelmed.
First, talk to the mom. Share your feelings together because chances are she feels the same way.
Second, pick up a book or two and start to educate yourself. It will help you feel more prepared.
Third, talk to some of the dads in your life - a friend who already has kids or even your own dad.
Last - follow your heart and trust your instincts. You will surprise yourself with how good of a dad you will actually be. You already know more than you realize.
2006-08-03 06:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is nervous during the first pregnancy. stick by your wife, take some "new parent" courses at the local Y or community center, show lots of love to your babies,and instinct will take over.
the only way to truly prepare for parenthood is to become a parent. people who wait until their "ready" or "mature enough" often end up unable to conceive because they waited too long. and even many teenagers end up being great parents. so, it's fine to be nervous. ignore those who say you're not ready to be a father. you'll do well!
2006-08-03 06:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by realmomof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard work taking care of a baby but dont worry its not that bad....as long as you treat your kids good and provide for them you'll be a good dad....and it sounds like you want to if your that nervous about taking care of the baby when he's born....and if this is your wifes first child then think of how she feels....she's prolly secretly just as nervous as you are...if not now she will be when it gets closer to the time for her to go into labor....but her motherly instincts should kick in and she'll help you out and show you how to care for your infant.....good luck and congrats!
2006-08-03 06:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way before my daughter was born.It is not easy raising a child but you learn as you go.Just do the best you can do.Love your child and treat him/her like you want to be treated be loving careing and understanding and you will do fine.Good luck
2006-08-03 08:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to worry--that just means you care. I think once you see your baby and hold them you'll feel much better about all of this. Congrats on the baby!
2006-08-03 06:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your too young and immature to be a father. go take some parenting classes for your childs sake
2006-08-03 06:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lauhged out loud reading about your dream...not at your situation though!
its natural to be scared...you're going to be responsible to raise a human being...it's nerve wracking and makes you doubt yourself, but i believe you'll do fine...after it's around for awhile, you wont be so freaked :)
good luck!
2006-08-03 06:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by rainprincess0820 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋