We just moved into a bigger place across town and I think maybe she is having trouble adjusting. We also switched her back to her old daycare (after being gone for two months) My daughter just learned No and will say no to anything. She will shake her head and throw herself on the floor if she doesnt get her way. I cannot reason with her, she is smart but still very much a baby. What do I do?? I tried ignoring her and I tried talking to her and nothing. SHe gets more and more upset...
2006-08-03 05:42:29 · 10 answers · asked by zoey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Terrible Twos and Your Toddler
No one looks forward to the terrible twos, a developmental stage that usually begins sometime in the toddler years.
Although many parents don't expect the terrible twos to start until their toddler is two years old, it is important to note that it can begin anytime during your child's second year, and so anytime after their first birthday, and unfortunately, sometimes even before.
Characterized by toddlers being negative about most things and often saying 'no', the terrible twos may also find your toddler having frequent mood changes and temper tantrums.
To help you cope with this normal stage in your child's development, you should always remember that your child isn't trying to be defiant or rebellious on purpose. He is just trying to express his growing independence and doesn't have the language skills to easily express his needs.This can also be the reason why your toddler frequently gets frustrated and resorts to hitting, biting, and temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way.
By learning more about this normal stage in your child's development, it can make it easier to get through it and make sure that you aren't contributing to more battles than are necessary.
Other tips for helping your toddler during the terrible twos include:
having a regular routine for meals, naps, bedtime, etc. and try to stick to them each day
offer limited choices only, like 'would you like apples or oranges for your snack' and not just 'what do you want for your snack.' This helps your toddler feel like he is making some decisions and has power over things, but he isn't able to choose unacceptable alternatives.
learn to set limits about things and don't be surprised when your toddler tries to test those limits to see what he can get away with
don't give in to tantrums
begin to use time-out and taking away privileges as discipline techniques
provide your toddler with a safe environment that is well childproofed to explore and play in. It really isn't fair that your toddler should get in trouble for playing with something he isn't supposed to if you left it within reach.
http://pediatrics.about.com/od/toddlers/a/05_terrble_twos.htm
2006-08-03 05:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Share Bear 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't kids just start everything early these days! My daughter is 20 months and started tantrums around 16 -17 months. It is the 'terrible twos' but early...basically she is trying to express herself in the world in the only way available...tantrums. My daughter was so placid as a baby, and now she can go from sweet and kind to screaming monster in 30 seconds. But, I know it is just a phase, so you just have to live through it. I often leave her be...making sure she can't hurt herself...and generally she will calm down on her own. This may take a while though. Good luck!!
2006-08-05 14:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by tanwil_73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Providing shes in a safe environment when shes throwing her tantrums, let her have them (meanign shes not bashing her head on a tile floor). If shes in harms way try to move her to a more cushioned area.
Put her to have her fit and walk away paying no mind to the kicking and screaming. Let her calm herself down and realize that it is getting her NO WHERE! Do this each and every time she has a fit. She will get the point. Shes just testing your limits.
My daughter just went thru this 2 months ago (shes almost 20 mos noww) and it worked like a charm.
2006-08-03 05:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not too young for a time out 1min. per year of the child.
Read the book Positive Disciple for toddlers and preschoolers. It has great ideas that work
2006-08-03 21:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your getting an early dose of terrible 2's. As long as shes not hurting herself I wouldn't do anything.
2006-08-03 05:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by tgrider1121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter does the same thing and she is 17months... if she doesnt want to stand up or get in her stroller she will kick and scream.. it drives me nuts but i try just to ignore her but if we are out having dinner or something i take her outside untill she calms down..
2006-08-03 05:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NICHD has been studying the separation of children from their mothers for decades. What they've learned is that if a child enters day care before age 3, and for most kids, before age 5, they are seriously damaged by this. First, the attachment between mom and child is damaged, the dad's approval of the child is damaged, the child's IQ is damaged, the child's social skills are damaged. The child is at great risk for depression and anxiety.
And, guess what - these results hold true even if daddy is the caregiver, if a full-time live-in nanny is provided, or if the day care is of the highest quality.
Why? Human infants evolved to need their mother's arms and mother's milk to grow optimally. Separating from mom floods a baby's brain with stress hormones, impairing the child's ability to learn and to regulate its emotions.
In addition, and perhaps most critically, the baby is currently forming his view of the world. Is the world reliable, a safe place, can i trust? Now picture him in day care, screaming for mommy (oh, they'll lie and say he doesn't) and you never come. What does he learn about you and about life? What does he learn about his effectiveness to get his needs met? What does he learn about what you think of his needs for love and affection?
Do you really want to teach your poor dear baby all those things? Last point, day care is far harder on boys than girls. Please don't do this to your child. He didn't ask to be born; he desparately doesn't want to grow up in an institution with a mommy who schedules in a few 'quality' minutes for him every day.
What you will miss by abandoning him to day care is immeasurable. My friends and I who actually raised our babies are always amazed by how totally detached from their kids our working friends became, how utterly unaware of children's needs and rythyms they became.
Day care is a lousy way to grow up. Up and Out in the rain, out in the freezing, out in the sweltering, never with mommy to share excitement, loyalties to the primary caregiver (who must become 'mommy' if she's gonna do a good job.) Why would you do this to your kid?
Source(s):
http://www.geocities.com/wellesley/garde... = lots of info on harms of day care
The Irreducible Needs of Children, a book by Brazleton
http://www.naturalchild.org wonderful site on kids' true needs
2006-08-03 08:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her throw the tantrum. Pretend to not be paying attention to her. Works everytime.
2006-08-03 05:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by Gregg H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my 10 month old he wouldn't stop crying of nothing one of the things shouldn't do is bribe them or to yell at them the thing to do is to keep happy and make them laugh its not that hard to do must kids of of that age would forget about being mad and just be happy and just think if you do something that they think is funny they will copy and you just taught them something new
2006-08-03 05:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by elizabeth t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try moving on this site... and remember she's almost 2 and with it comes a behavioral changes... it's a learning process for her emotions and how to deal with them.
2006-08-03 15:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by Clyde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋