My son is 3 years old. He goes to daycare while I go to work and plays with other children there but he has no one to play with at home (weekends). He has many cousins in my side of the family but we live far from them. We live near his father and his grandmother but there are no other children in their family. I try to be fun and take him places but I can tell that he is lonely. When we go to the park, he sits and looks at other kids play, the same when I take him to the pool or chuck e cheese. I have tried to invite his “friends” from daycare to the house but non of the parents have ever showed up.
What can I do to help my son find a friend who would visit and play with him at home? Is he to small for this kind of friends? Should I let him get his own friends? I don’t know what to do!
2006-08-03 05:40:46 · 14 answers · asked by Calis_Shygirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm in the same boat. My son is three and up until recently he was at home with me all the time, no daycare, no pre-school. We don't even have any other small children in the family for him to play with. Just a little while ago he started pre-school and that was great for him to get some time out of the house and away from me to be around kids his own age. We also just recently met some kids from the neighborhood that he has been playing with a lot. It has really been great for him, but we still enjoy our one-on-one time also. I think it's good that your son is at least able to have play-time with the kids at daycare. If you can get any playdates arranged then I think that will be good, but I wouldn't worry about it too much. He is getting older and it will start getting easier for him to make friends and start having more of a "social life". Just be patient and things will work out. Good luck!
2006-08-03 05:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, You sound like me many years ago. I was a single mom with a son. His father has many children but they are all over the place. He has cousins but it is nothing like having a sibling. I am now married by the grace of GOD. Girl, don't worry he will be fine. I have no other kids which makes him an only child. He is now 15 years old. The first thing I did was take him places and I was his friend. I would take him places that had lots of kids. Not just the play ground or park. I would take him to Jeepers. This is more fun and you can ride with him. (if you have one in your area.) It has lots of fun and rides. I would make a big deal of things so I would have his attention. I would not worry to much about him having friends as much as him being social. He will be fine. Now and then my son may say he wishes he has a brother or sister but he is ok. I may give him that but I make sure most of all I give him lots of love. Hope this will help and remember he won't always be alone. You may have more children later. Be Blessed.
2006-08-03 09:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by baby girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry he is only three. I have a three year old niece she isn't in daycare but she is kept by my mother along with several small children in the day time. I think she is relaxed when she is home or alone with her parents or me. You will know your child better if you spend time alone with them. He may need a break from other kids or his friends on the weekends. He may just want to spend son time with his parents. When he gets older he will want to be with his friends all the time anyway, enjoy this time when he is little.
2006-08-03 05:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by mmcclaskey31516 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should relax. Instead of getting so worried about how many friends he has, encourage him to be more independant when you are home with no other children around. He can play pretend, color or read a book. There is much for an only child to do.
I grew up an only child and today am more comfortable by myself than others i know. Dont push him. He may not be ready for that level yet.
2006-08-03 05:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only 3, if he is getting social interaction at daycare, he will be okay. He doesn't need someone to play with 24/7. Maybe he is more of a loner and gets easily overwhelmed by other children. Give him time, he will make friends on his own.
2006-08-03 05:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
G et your son a puppy. This will teach your son how to treat animals and he will also learn how to treat others. It seems that there are no children his age in your immediate area, but taking him some distance to play with other children will make him tired and cranky, and not very sociable. When your child goes to school he will then begin to make life long friends. Don't push him into friendships that he doesn't want. Friends will come to him naturally.
2006-08-03 10:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by william m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a simmular situation... my husbands job requires us to travel all over the U.S. or we are away from family and friends..and we stay in hotels/suites and when my daughter tries to play with some of the kids around here they are always running away from her when she just trys to give them a hug(shes only 17 months) but in our hometown they have Gymboree classes and a place called The Little Gym...but the only places around here are parks which no one is ever there when we are
2006-08-03 06:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child's need for friends are more than met.
He needs much more time with mommy that he gets and has gotten.
Don't take him fun places, do things with him. Play board games, card games, imaginery games, read, draw, make cookies, build with blocks.
DO THINGS WITH HIM.
A real danger of day care is that moms who use it early and often really don't have a good idea about their child and child development needs. I notice moms who aren't home think kids are for managing (hopefully by someone else) and not for being with, discovering, etc.
Again, he has far far far too much time with others. What he needs is you. One on One. You, learning about him. You, guiding him. You are who he is lonely for.
I suggest you read "The Irreducible Needs of Children" by Brazelton to get some real insight on what kids need.
2006-08-03 07:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother is presently raising one of my nephews, and a similar problem arose with that. She started a boy scout group so there would be other boys around for him to play with. Perhaps your son is a bit young for that, but talk with the other parents and see what you can come up with.
Good luck!
2006-08-03 05:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him some of the nice educational toys for children his age. Being alone is good for him part time. Only children do all right.
2006-08-03 06:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋