i have an older sister , she is 29 and the older she gets the worse she gets with cocaine , she works a job 3 hours a day, has no ambition and seems to be falling deeper and deeper into using cocaine, she has stolen some money and jewelry from em already. i have told my parents but she denies it and its almost like they believe her but i have first hand knowledge that , that is all she does with her and her bfs money.and then they hit up my parents for money and they give it to her which i wish they wouldnt . i dont know what to do to get her to stop cause she doesnt think she has a problem ,but she is an addict already
2006-08-03 05:29:52 · 16 answers · asked by LISA M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Bad news. She is the only one who can change her behavior or even find the motivation to change. The most you can do is assist when and if she decides to change. You aren't responsible for her starting and you won't be responsible for her stopping. The best you can do is not enable her and try to help your parents see that they are helping her continue in a very, very destructive path. Tell her you care about her and will help when she's had enough.. Here's a web site that might help:
http://www.ca.org/
2006-08-03 05:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say organize an intervention but that would be kinda hard with you're parents in denial this is not uncommon for parents to turn a blind eye its not that they don't know they do they don't want to admit it because they would have to take a good hard look at themselves and the way they have enabled her habit but at 29 years old you know the difference between right and wrong.here's my advice to you go to you re local chapter of narc anon there you will find pamphlets and resource's on how to deal with the way you feel then go to the library or the Internet and print out all of the articles you can about the symptoms and long term affects of cocaine abuse and leave them all over the house drug addicts hate being called on what they know to be true denial goes only so far .and lastly and quite unfortunately you may just have to sit back and watch her hit rock bottom,or you can always drag her sorry a** to the doctor Phil show good luck.
2006-08-03 13:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NOTHING YOU CAN DO. She has to want to do it for herself. Your parents are enabling her. Who is she living off of? My 26 year old is an addict too and he ruined us financially. Your parents will learn. One day they will come home and EVERYTHING WILL BE GONE. Then they will go to the bank, only to find out that she got into their account --- it happened to us. Your parents aren't going to learn until they're HIT hard with it. It won't be long now if she's already started stealing. Just wait and mark my words.
2006-08-03 12:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, my brother was on drugs, along with several uncles--and all I can advise you is to LEAVE THEM ALONE.
YOU CANT CHANGE OR HELP AN ADDICT--THEY CAN ONLY SAVE THEMSELVES. UNTIL THEY ADMIT THEY ARE SICK THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO.
As for your Mom, have long talk with her. Tell her that your sister is an addict and thats a fact! Tell Mom to stop enabling her--stop giving her money to get high!
Girl, move on with your life. You have to fulfull your goals and your Destiny. Dont let your sister drag you down along with her..Still be there is she ever TRULY needs help--but other than that--move on with your life. KEEP MOVING FORWARD. BE HAPPY AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE. YOUR SISTER IS IN GOD'S HANDS NOW.
Peace
2006-08-03 13:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first does her boyfriend do it with her , she will never stop if he does . You need to break them up somehow . You also need to somehow make your parents realize how bad it is , make it serious , tell them you want to organize an intervention for her . If she is shooting up it will be very difficult to stop , if snorting it will be difficult also but not as bad . Cocaine is a very hard drug to stop using
2006-08-03 12:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you most deff need to help her. a person wont get better anless they have the will. she needs a positive motovation in her life. that believe it or not is the second hardest part. you can try doin an intervention. im very sorry you have to deal with that, if i could id toatly give you a hug
2006-08-03 12:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by dizzogurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be blunt with her. Tell her in no uncertain terms that she obviously has a problem and she needs to sort it out before she completely destroys her life. Tell that you're worried and you'll help where you can, but keep telling her that she's clearly addicted.
It sometimes takes someone to just tell you straight up that you have a problem before you'll admit it to yourself.
2006-08-03 12:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Entwined 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. She needs to go to rehab but they tend to have to hit rock bottom or be sent by the court to do so. The only thing you can do is to put some distance between yourself and her to prevent further stealing.
2006-08-03 12:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is to cut her out of your life or she will bring you down with her. If you can get evidence and show it to your parents so that they can stop supporting her habit.
2006-08-03 13:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by taiyanglung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i want you to do is to pray for her and don`t argue with her anymore until you get proof to show ur parent that she use drugs and she is the one who stole those jewelry and the money.i`m sure that they will know the truth one day.just be courageous
2006-08-03 12:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by adjimax2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋