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Question

i wanna be nice to my litle brother but he's SOO stubborn and he's ALWAYS getting on my nerves!!
I have to explode at him like everyday! He's 10 and we're not very far in age.
Then when i explode at him, he gets all frustrated and starts crying. (i know he wans me to be nicer to him, too) and that makes me feel even worse!!
It really doesn't help that I can get almost anything I want and everyone's also a litle harder on him. (mostly because im a scial butterfly and he's not really social at all. he's got friends but...)
I wanna be nice to him but i just cant!
all he ever wants to do is play video games and do boring stuff that i dont wanna do.
PLEASE HELP ME!!!

SCRATCH THE CRYING:---HE DOESNT REALLY CRY, ITS LIKE Chics BOROTHER.

Answer 1

Just try doing something you guys have in common together. There is gonna be a certain amount of arguing just because y'all are siblings, but it's up to you to keep things under control because you are the oldest. Try taking him to the park, or video arcade or something. If y'all bond on some level, he'll be less inclined to be so obnoxious all the time...

Answer 2

He's a 10 year old boy and that's what they do. You're not much older, so your behavior is consistent with your age, too. You're hungry for independence and rapidly putting away the last vestages of childhood.
It's good, though that you at least recognize that he's going through some things, too. That understanding will serve you well in the future. ( and that's no small task for a "social butterfly"). Spoken like a true big sibling. It's a lifelong job, but it sounds like you're going to do fine.

Answer 3

IM way older than you but I do have a younger brother and a daughter who has a younger sister and brother,It is tuff to handle the annoying littles,but try to include him on something you do every now n then,without him asking you,just say hey bro do you want to play nintendo with me or something you like that he enjoys!or say hey let me read a story outloud for us,let him pick it out,take turns,let him pick out one thing a week or 2,that he likes and you both do it,then you pick 1 or 2 things a week and you both do them,he will probably be less annoying then because he will feel special to you,and thats all the littles really want,to them the older one is sooo cool and fun,they just want to be like you! take his annoying stuff as a good thing,he wants your attention because you are cool! good luck

Answer 4

Regardless of how he's seen as (social butterfly, etc.), he is still your brother and will always be your brother. He may be the one you have to turn to when you can't go to anyone else. I have SEVERAL older brothers and sisters and they have NEVER mistreated me. By you being older, your suppose to set an example. If your showing hate towards him, that is what he thinks is exceptable towards other people. My brothers and sisters all have said to me that when I go out I represent them too. So the way I acted, was a reflection of how they treated me.

Answer 5

You don't have to do things with him to be nice. Just find some way to complement him. Say "good job!" or just say "thank you" and give him a smile. It sounds simple but it really helps. As far as exploding goes - tell him, calmly, you are annoyed by his behavior, then go somewhere else until you cool down.

Answer 6

my daughters are the same.

first off, try being nice to him, ask him if he wants to come out WITH you, just sometimes, make him feel wanted, and a little more like his exsistence is not just for you to pick on him, hes going to be quite hormonal at times if he';s ten, as are you if you are not so far apart in age.

its tough being the younger sibling, why does he get it harder?

Answer 7

one thing that you can do is if you both like going for a bike ride try that i have 2 younger brothers and it was hard they always wanted to join in with everything. you just have to remember he is younger and just wants someoen to look up to

Answer 8

really he crys when u scream @ him....@ ten?? cause mi bro just says insults and i feel like chockin him somtimes but somtimes hes really nice but he thinks hes so smart...which really he aint so wat i do is ...basically nothing i try avoiding him like ignoring him did ur bro just get outa fourth grade or is he goin to the sixth cause really hes gotta stop cryin at stuff like thathasnt anyone evr tot him anything like that like guys r sposed to b tuff???

Answer 9

well in thirty and my little brother is twenty three, he has been getting on my nerves and crying for twenty three years so all i could say is get used to it!

Answer 10

thats with me. you gotta be tough, you gotta be rough but you also have to have a heart of gold