so i'm 15. my mom and I have been constantly on each other's backs. We have about 3-4 fights every day, and i'm sick of it!!! we used to get along so great, but now whatever she does bugs me soo much!! what should i do??
2006-08-03 05:04:16 · 8 answers · asked by Maria18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no of course u dont hate her. i went through that in 5th grade. (usually in the private school i go to it happened earlier) and i didnt hate her i just knew that i was goin through a tough time. ok i see ur goin throught the same thing. by next yr it will be gone. thats wat happened for me. by the way i would walk in the woods and just cry . sounds weird? hey it worked for me.
2006-08-03 05:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't hate your mom, your a teenager and your trying to grow in to an adult. This situation creates natural conflict as your mom tries to keep you under control and stop you from growing up too fast while you strive constantly to grow up as fast as you can and experience everything possible in life. What you need to do is step back from the situation and do some soul searching. You need to realize how lucky you are to have a mom who loves you and cares about you. Forget the fighting and the fact you two see things differently right now. That is so minor compared to the millions of children who either don't have a mom, or who have a mom that doesn't even care about them. Stop fighting with your mom and instead start working on growing up in how you two discuss things. Learn to take time to listen to her and to consider her point of view before you respond to things. And when you respond don't be upset but be an adult and explain why you disagree and what you believe. And in the end remember that she is the parent and your the child and that you only have a few more years of doing what she says so is it really worth fighting with her or would it be better for everyone if you just did what she wanted for now. Life is short so don't waste it fighting with the ones you love. You will be an adult and able to do what ever you want way too soon.
2006-08-03 12:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give each other a break. Try doing something extra nice for your mom, and maybe that will break the ice. You should each write down on a sheet of paper the top 5 things that bug you about each other. Maybe there are similarities. Either way, take each one and jointly figure out how to minimize the conflict. Your mom is under stress, because she's likely worried about you. You are also under stress, because you're trying to figure out how the world works. But you do have the power to change things at home.
2006-08-03 12:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not think that you literally hate your mom. You are a teenager who is trying to grow up and have the abilities to express your own opinions about things. Most teens have some kind of issues with one of their parents, and it usually happens at your age. Things will get better because your mom does love you, its just right now, you cannot see eye to eye. When I was 15, I used to think I hated my mom too, but I learned that I would rather have my mom arguing and disagreeing with me, than giving up on my completely. Be lucky to have your mom in your life, and I am sure as you get older and mature, your relationship will get better.
2006-08-03 12:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by manderin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't hate her. you are finding out who you are. it's hard to imagine your mom at your age and you probably remind her of herself at your age. you don't want to 'end up' like your mom. you want to be your own person. TOTALLY UNDERSTANDABLE!
you're 15. it goes away.
what to do? imagine never seeing her again; never being able to ask her anything ever again. imagine having to bury your mom 6 feet in the ground. imagine your graduation day, your wedding day, the day you give birth to your own child and all the questions you will have. how much trust will you have in someone else to tell you about child rearing? imagine your children growing up without gramma around. how about a job interview? who will be there to tell you how you look (and be totally honest about it)? who will be around to laugh about the silly things you did when you were little?
2006-08-03 12:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a little more accepting of her you little twit! try realizing that you think you know it all when all you really know is how to ask mommy and daddy for everything. at 15 you haven't stopped wetting the bed long enough to know better.
2006-08-03 13:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by sickandtiredinpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont no do i look like a dr.phil
2006-08-03 12:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shouldnt you be telling us if you hate her or not? how are we to know?
2006-08-03 12:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋