Well, i'm only 14 and only a few of my friends had bf's and others almost had one. I'm fat but not ugly and the guys that liked me don't ask me out ,but then go out with my best friend. How can i get a boyfriend if all their conerns are on the way i look?
2006-08-03 04:56:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are 14. You have time. Take the time to get yourself ready to have a boyfriend. The tough part is that ALL THE WORLD looks on the outside. And being overweight is going to block most every guy from your life on a romantic level. (Trust me, I know this, I know this, I know this.) You will get answers on here which will be hurtful about your weight - but there is a bit of truth in each one and that is that being fat will stop boys from liking you. You are too young and they are too young to expect them
to behave on a higher plane of emotional connection. They will see your weight and you will go right to the "friends" category.
So you are 14. You can lose weight. You can. And do it smart instead of stupid or you will pay for that the rest of your life. (This, too, I know from experience.) Get "The Ultimate Weight Solution: The 7 Keys to Weight Loss Freedom" a book written by Dr. Phil McGraw. Read it. As your parents to take you to your family physician so that they can evaluate what you should weigh at your age and give you a diet you can follow. Exercise - get up early and exercise in the morning to rev up your fat-burning metabolism. Exercise again at night to keep it going while you sleep. Set your goal on losing 2 pounds a week.
Stop thinking about getting a boyfriend while you do this. Think of yourself as unwrapping the present of yourself to the world. As you diet away the pounds, you will reveal the true you. And you will be surprised, yourself, at how good you feel about yourself. You will discover things about yourself that you did not know.
Trust me. Been there, done this. I was fat as a chld - fat at 14 - and fat several times as an adult. I know the pain you are going through. The ONLY way to take it away is to find your true whole self. The weight is just a covering, but it is covering you up and hiding you from the world and from yourself.
Unveil yourself and see how things look then.
Good luck, honey.
2006-08-03 05:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...don't worry about that!! Looks aren't everything! + you're only 14 and it's not the end of the world. Look at me: I'm 18 and last year I found my soulmate, I hadn't any bf till now, but I always said to myself: if a boy will like me, he'll like me for who I am, not what I look like. I think those boys just pretended to like you when they were really running after your friends. Pls don't get so, because it's not right, you shouldn't suffer for such matters, just be strong and confident...the ONE will surely come at the right time. Meanwhile, have fun, study well, go out with your friends...it's not a drama. Cheer up :)
2006-08-03 05:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by mickurahul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're 14, so it would be relatively easy to change your lifestyle at this point if you really are overweight, which, given how many people post their weights and heights on here asking if they're fat when they're normal, you probably aren't.
Give it time, let boys you like know that you're interested in subtle ways, and then just let things develop normally. You're 14, not a spinster.
2006-08-03 05:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kiari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you're 14 relax ull get a bf
if they are worried how you look then forget them
try becaoming friends with some guys
because if he knows you better then he will be
less likely to only judge your outward appearence
good luck
2006-08-03 05:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by kutpi007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first become only friends make sure they know about the real you first and youll eventually find someone that likes you for who you are on the inside not the outside.
2006-08-03 05:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by shoppergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time and you'll find a boyfriend who will care about you and only you.
2006-08-03 05:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by RedCloud_1998 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if all they care about is looks then they arent worth your time i look for personality first then looks so if u were older or i was younger id prolly date ya if u were sweet
2006-08-03 05:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will find a guy that will b perfect 4 u
2006-08-03 05:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by brit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God sees the inside. You will find someone when it is time.
2006-08-03 05:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is somebody for everybody just wait god will send you somebody who likes you for you and not how you look.
2006-08-03 05:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by lasondraperry-graham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋