What's wrong with me?

Question

I am a single black woman who just turned 28. I don't have children and I live alone so I take care of all of my own bills. I have a college degree and a pretty good job but I can't seem to find a decent man. I have friends with more drama than Jerry Springer who pick up men as if it was nothing. Even my married girlfriends find more guys than I do. I have an easy going personality and I am not hard to get along with. People tell me all the time that I am a beautiful woman so please tell me what's wrong with me? What am i doing wrong that makes me undesirable to men?

Answer 1

I know I'm much younger than you, but seriously, I just think the right guy hasn't come along yet. You sound like a very special and responsible person, and that makes other guys who aren't as responsible feel intimidated by your great qualifications. The answer is simple.
You just haven't found the guy that's good enough for you! But don't just sit there and expect that he'll just pop on your front doorstep, try looking for him, and if he's looking for you too, it'll be easier to find each other!

Answer 2

From the way you talk about your friends with so much drama in their lives my guess is that you are the type of woman who takes a lot of pride in herself and her life. You have a very definite view of who you are and what you want for your future. You don't put up with fools. So the thing is you probably are very picky and it is very obvious to others that your a bit stand offish and not real open and easy to connect with at first. This means that most men will gravitate toward your friends first who are more willing to take a chance on a guy and put up with their silly behavior early on. I admire the fact your picky and know what you want but you need to lighten up and no be so quick to judge a book by its cover. Open up, take some chances, and let people get to know you. Remember, you can always decide after you get to know them to throw them back but you will never catch anything if you don't throw the hook into the water and real them in first.

Answer 3

i'm in the same kinda boat as u, my situation is a little different ...but ... i'm 23, east indian, a single mom of a beautiful, highly intelligent little girl, i have a good job at an intl. corporation and have been trying to further my studies in accounting as well as i have qualifications in that field... i am always being called 'sexy', 'beautiful', 'hot', 'nutritious', and whatever else by all the MARRIED or otherwise TAKEN men at work ... yet i have been single for the last 5 years... everyone around me is getting engaged or married and i am still waiting for a first date?... my situation is different as i am not living on my own and i do have a child, however your question is a dilema i find myself battling with as well.... the best i can say is "GIVE IT TIME" when the time is right u will meet him and u won't even know it.... i hope for BOTH of our sakes it happens soon cause i know i am at the end of my rope with loneliness....i love my daughter more than life itself and she fulfils my heart will exuberant amounts of love and care, but she can't help me with the empty feeling i have when it comes to wanting an (adult) partner... i know exactly what u are going through feels like and one day honey it WILL happen.... just be strong, hang in there and continue being yourself and enjoying the things u like doing as well as all ur friends, who i am sure are always there for u as mine are....

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with you! I know how you feel though. I feel as though I am in the same boat. Don't be so hard on yourself you will meet someone. You just need to relax and let it happen naturally. Keep your chin up. I hope you do not have very strict, harsh standards for the type of men you will and will not date. You will be surprised. Husbands can come in the most unexpected packages!

Answer 5

I would be interested in seeing a photo of you, to give you an accurate account of what I see. You maybe giving off a vibe, which says leave me along, and not meaning too. Many shy people are thought tobe stuck up and don't want tobe bothered, when, they wish someone would approach them and just talk.

If you read both of the books on these links and practice the techniques of using body language, you will be a hero in your own world.
You can also send me an IM and I will be glad to talk to you and give you more tips to improve your life.

Answer 6

It's not you maybe it's the guys. Some guys don't appreciate a woman who is more succesful then them. Most like females that act all ghetto and etc. Look, you'll get you a man that's right for you just relax and be patient.

Answer 7

Believe it or not some men feel threatened by an independent successful woman. They feel that they can't please her or match her criteria. Get out and be yourself and let people get to know you a little bit better and see what the results bring you. If you are what you say you are then your definately a catch for alot of men

Answer 8

baby girl. list the quality of your ideal boyfriend. be realistic. no movie star, no knight and shining armor. what do you do for fun except hanging out with yourfriends? things that you like to do. you sounds like a good catch, but are you allowing yourself to be seen or known by others. i'm not saying that you need to go out and find some. but usually it will work best if you have an activities that you enjoy, you'll find that person with common interest easier.

Answer 9

Can't figure out how you're not swamped with requests for dates. You sound great. If you want to message an old guy whose older than dirt and tell me where you're looking and where you aren't it might be intersting.

Answer 10

you should change your outlook on guys. You'll find the right one when the time comes, but if you keep on thinking that you'll never get any man, then you won't!! keep a positive attitude and keep on smiling!!