I would rather spend time with ,my science instructor is that because we see each other everyday and his more playful; to his kids and he has time with his kids and he doesnt take his job at home so he can bond with his kids why cant my father do that? If I ran out of patience I will never look up to him no more what should I do to get trough this?
2006-08-03 04:53:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not that your dad likes his job better than you... he goes to work "FOR YOU"
Express that you feel ignored by him that you feel he likes his job better than you, If you don't tellhim it he won't realize it. It is more than likely that when you tell him he will see that maybe he is ignoring you a bit and try to change something in his life to give you more time
Believe me your dad loves you more than anything, more than himself, but sometimes we don't express it
2006-08-03 05:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Luis T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to understand that your father thinks that its his responsibilty and actually knows that its his responsibility to provide and give you all that you need. Your father believes that he is expressing his love by making money and giving you what you need and ask for. I don't think he realizes that what you really want is his attention, time, love and friendship. I don't know your age, but the best thing for you to do is go to your father and tell him how you feel about your relationship with him. Sometimes men are not at seeing details and they don't communicate really well either. They think that by their actions (in this case your dad working to provide for your family) they are showing you love and support.
Talk with your dad because when he hears you say those things, then he will understand and probably come to an agreement on how to spend time with each other.
2006-08-03 12:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by milogz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, some fathers think that to show their love to their families they have to work hard, put in long hours. They think kids will understand that they are working hard to provide everything their kids want. Tell your father that you would rather go without a few things so he can spend more time with you. You have to talk to him, let him know how you feel.
2006-08-03 11:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, The computer your on, the clothes on your back, the food in your mouth, the roof over your head, are only some of the reasons that your dad works so hard and you don't see him. I'm more than sure that he is missing you a great deal more than you seem to give him credit for. You're being selfish! you have to choose between all the nice things you have and your dad's company.You can't just have it all!
2006-08-03 12:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ricky J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you understand that his work is important, but you really would like to spend some time with him. And it would be nice if he could make time in his weekly schedule to spend a little time with you, maybe set aside a couple hours on the weekend and do different suff... go shopping, to a movie, play tennis or something. Or try to find a hobby that both of you can enjoy, like racing rc cars. stay strong and possitive. good luck
2006-08-03 12:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by sisy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you dad loves you. Lots of men feel that their doing their part by working and providing for the family. Or he may just not know how to express his love for you, which is too bad. Sometimes our friends become family, and that's okay to.
2006-08-03 12:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,hey,hey...how do u know your father does not want you?...that is your first mistake..never assume anything...second, some people are just not demonstrative.and i doubt if he loves bringing work home...why don't you take the first step and show that you care...he may not show his love by playing with you, but try to see it in his other actions...hope you are grown up enough to be charitable towards people with drawbacks...we all have a few...
2006-08-03 12:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't close to my father until I was married. Dad just wasn't able to connect with us when we were younger. As we grew, he could talk to us on an adult to adult basis but he never could relate to children. It is the luck of the draw. I loved my dad and still miss him. He died several years ago.
2006-08-03 11:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him that you want to spend some time with you maybe he doesn't know that he isn't spending enough time with you. both of you should choose a day you can both spend some time together every week so you get some time together.
2006-08-03 11:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by true-mysteryfrom chinese wish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm same question from you i answered before.
how are the things i'm suggesting working out for you?
did you try going to work with your dad or asking about his work?
or learning about what he works on so you can talk to him about it?
there is no problem with having your teacher as a mentor.
but how are your plans with your dad working? what happened when you asked about learning more about his work?
2006-08-03 11:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋