I have been with my guy for almost 6 years, ever since I was 16. We are totally dependent on each other and always together. Every year i get frustrated and run off to be single for about 4 months. I'm doing it again!! But this time I think it might be for good...I'm afraid of such a large decision and have been thinking about it non-stop, we have alot of our lives intertwined. I just want to know how it feels to be alone, but I'm afraid to lose him forever....Help Me!! What do I do and what do I consider???
2006-08-03 04:33:57 · 16 answers · asked by chasingdestiny84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are my age and I have been with my boyfriend for only 2 years. It sounds like you have a good man but your life revolves around him a little too much. do you have any girlfriends in state our out/ you should spend a little more time with them instead of every waking moment with your man. go on a vacation with your girls or your family go to some parties without him ( don't do nothing crazy) and then come bake home to him. Me and my boyfriend live together but we don't spend evrytime we have off with each other. Yes we do still go out and have a good time, but I still need time for me. I spend a lot of time with my friends and family too. When I start to feel like I need some me time I'll call a few of my girl friends and we go shoping and out to eat, go to a bar or whatever, we talk about our relationships they give me advice and I give them advice to but I always come home to him. Do you see yourself growing old with him? Does he treat you like a queen? If you can't see yourself living without him then stay, because a good man is really hard to find. You can still be with him without letting go of your needs. you have alife too and you should just tell him I'm going this place with this person, call me if you need me and also tell him to do the same, let him go out with his friends. If ya'll have the same friends, then you go out with one and let him go out with the other. Being alone from your other half is very hard, go home for a few days if you feel the relationship is going no where then let him no why but I bet it hurts him when you leave for months at a time.
2006-08-03 04:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it sounds like you are not ready to be committed the more you get older the more you want to party and be alone there is nothing wrong with that you're young enjoy life right just remember you don't know what you lost until it's gone. I mean your also old enough to understand right from wrong, put your feelings first, if he is a good boyfriend something you will not find somewhere else think of your future what if you lose him and you later on find your self with someone who isn't worth it , and then you will tell your self what if? Do you really want that. Think ahead not the moment.
2006-08-03 11:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by rizo21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweety all i can say is if he has been doing this for a long time and all you can think about is breaking up with him then do it because there are alot of things that you want to do that you have never done before things you want to try but you can't because you have a boyfriend and probably worried about him and don't want to leave him alone. I have the say problem but i am going to let the game play out and see how it goes. Do what your heart says.
2006-08-03 11:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by the ONE and ONLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with him, you would be with him. I was with a guy for 7 years and finally got the courage to break it off. The thing is that you are scared to be alone not scared to loose him. You think that if you leave him, you might not find anyone better. which is not true its just that it might take you a long time to do that. But dont sweat, when we really want to be with someone, we stay with them with our hearts and body.
So girl, i dont think its about being single, its fear of not getting anyone better. cos the months you were alone have shown you what it feels to be single!! I was bold to dump mine and i am regreting, if you love him, stay with him and forget the whole thing about being single. You can still enjoy your independence in your togetherness.
Good luck
2006-08-03 11:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sahem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. thats sorta what im going through right now, except iv been with my bf for 2 years. I have days where i feel like i need to go out & grow individually before i committ to him completly. I love him with all my heart & have never cheated on him, but i feel like sooner or later im gonna give into temptation. Right now me and him arent together, & these past two weeks that iv been single iv had a blast...but i miss him, & im really considering getting back 2gether. I just know that i cant pull another escape in the future, so if i get back with him.....itll be for good. FOLLOW YOUR HEART! thats the best advice i can give you.
2006-08-03 11:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by OmgitsMe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.your almost 22 and before you became an adult you had a serious relationship.so you missed out on all the fun dating, playing the field. if you cant be true to you then the relationship is not ment to be. the longer you wait the more it will hurt. this relationship is not fair to either of you.and i am sure for the 4 months he is heartbroken. there will come a time when he will get sick of it, and then you have no chance at friendship.only you can decide. good luck
2006-08-03 11:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by sparklesevilcarebear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im on the other side of it. i have been with my gf for 6 years and 7 months and just lsat nite she broke up with me because she wanted to know what it was like to be single. Also in our case she is just 19 and i am 21 but u have to live ur life for u and do what makes u happy and not think of how the other person is going to react. Trust me u r only going to hurt him and urself more by not letting go.
2006-08-03 11:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by ajaramill0711 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a decision and stick with it. STOP playing games with this guy, because that's exactly what you're doing. It's very unfair. BTW "fear of being alone" is NO reason to stay with someone. If that's all that's keeping you with him, then it sounds like it's time for you to move on, and allow him to do the same.
2006-08-03 11:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to know what it feels like to be alone? Sounds like you're screwing up a perfectly good relationship. Personally, if you ran off for 4 months regularly every year and you did it again, I don't think he should take you back.
2006-08-03 11:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by pieninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think that being without your boyfriend is the true answer?
If you really love him then you don't want to be without him!
True love is sticking together... thick and thin!
Sounds to me that he is more in love with you than you are with him... If my boyfriend of 5 years every year decide he need to run off and be without me for 4 months... he'd be gone...
That's not love!
I would leave him!
Who are you hurting more???
You???
or
Him???
2006-08-03 11:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by moon_fariey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋