A question for my fellow Christians....?

Question

Should I confront a non believing co-worker about their swearing? Would this be appropriate? I have shared my views with her on pretty much everthing, but when it comes to her filthy language I just roll my eyes and keep quiet. There is already a lot of tension between us and I don't want it to escalate. What do you think Jesus would have me do?

Answer 1

Pray consistently about it and any day the spirit of God bids you talk to her about it, then do it. Right now wait on utterance from God. You might take it up in your hand to remedy the situation and create a worst problem. My brother nothing beats prayer. When God remedies a situation it is well taken care of. Always remember that he never gives us more than we can manage.

Answer 2

What would Jesus do......only God judges. Rolling eyes...what do you think her natural reaction is when you do that. Book of James says hold your tongue. Quite a bit of tension between you already, stop sharing your ideals about EVERYTHING. Your actions not your words will ease the tension. You must be around her a lot to hear filthy language. Find a different co-worker who shares your views if shes follows you around with her offensive language go to human resources. Just pray for her.

Answer 3

I don't know that your Christianity creates a unique circumstance in this situation so I'll just answer based on the dilemma.

Rather than addressing the issue with the coworker directly, I would bring it to the attention of your employer and let them know that it is not only offensive but unprofessional. If your office has any contact with clients or the public (even on the phone...background conversation is easily heard); the coworker's language could be hurting the company in income and reputation. Management should have no problem telling her to curb her language.

Answer 4

I think if it affects yoru workplace, and others are offended too, you should confront them caringly and simply ask, not out of religious views but for the harmonious working environment, that they refrain from swearing. It's the same with smoking, it offends people in the office, and they are required to smoke outside. If it is creating some sort of tension, talk to you boss about it, and you can come to an amicable resolution to the problem.

Answer 5

Vulgar language, regardless of your religious beliefs, is still uncouth, and unprofessional. Although I have no moral compunctions about a word being "dirty", I still know that certain language makes people uncomfortable. At the same time, talking too LOUD can make people uncomfortable, or talkingtoofast. It's common courtesy to avoid doing so.

And that's how I would approach it, Christian or not. And FYI, if you do bring religion into your reasoning, you'll most likely be rebutted for that reason alone.

Answer 6

Here is the thing, Aside from asking someone not to swear in front of you, there isn't much else you can do other then avoid speaking with that person. Don't bring Jesus into it because it isn't necessary. People have a right to say whatever they want (as long as it isn't against company policy). You also have a right to not hear it. So I would say just avoid them.
If they are already aware of your convictions and have chosen not to respect you by watching their mouth, pimp slapping them with the Bible isn't going to help.

Answer 7

Screw jesus. Why bring your religion into it? You have every right to work in a peaceful environment. If your co-worker's swearing is bothering you, you should talk to her about it. Remind her that it's not appropriate behavior. If it still continues, talk to her supervisor.

I wonder if you simply annoyed her more by bringing your beliefs into the matter? Perhaps she would have stopped, but is now doing it just to bug you?

Answer 8

If you're on company time then her swearing is not likely appropriate anyways. If she has turrots then there's another problem.
If she refuses to concede when confronted with the business aspect then follow the chain of command.

Answer 9

Well, if there is tension, I myself, would probably let it go....but if there is a time when you feel comfortable about being honest with her, just say something like "I find some of the things you say offensive......"

Other than that, pray about it. God may convict her of it or find another way to work it out for you. Believe in the power of prayer! AND definitely pray for your enemies!

Answer 10

I was in that position with a co-worker, as well, and with our jobs, we were often working together in a back room without others around, so she felt free to say whatever, whenever she wanted. I simply said to her, "Please don't curse around me" and she said she really couldn't stop, etc, she wouldn't remember, it is just the way she talked. I smiled at her and said, "That's ok, I'll remind you!" And I did. She really got much better after that. If she knows your views, leave religion out of it and just be polite. Repay good for evil....