Let's suppose your lady is really nice, loving and caring... loves you more than anything, you love her, you think she's beautiful, and smart... but she suffers from depression... and oftenly cries... she's into treatment some time ago and you are together for almost 2 years.
Remember you love her very much, and whenever she's not into that thing you two have lots of fun, because aside of partners you are best friends.
Would you be able to stand her tears, and love her even with that thing... would you take her seriously or think that probably that might not work in the future?
2006-08-03 04:05:57 · 33 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey... she had a really hard childhood, her mom died tragically when she was 6, people always tried to take advantage of her, her grandma was talking crap about her dad, and a guy tried to rape her... again she's really trying hard to get over it...
2006-08-03 04:17:56 · update #1
I'm the girlfriend! I'm the girl! lol
2006-08-07 13:56:43 · update #2
having read through other peoples replies i can see some really nasty people here, obviously they are single because all they care about is their own needs.
on the other hand there are lots of nice comments from genuine people who care about their loved ones.
I would stand by my wife whatever happened, a relationship is built on many things, it is not only the good things that have to be looked at.
we have been through a few hard situations, depression included and we were there for each other all the way, she told me she could not have done it without me!
"the door swings both ways"
just read the update, send a hug from me!
2006-08-03 04:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly let me say , It takes a very stronge person to admit in not so many words that they are and have been suffering from deppression. In this day and age it is something that everyone in some way or other has to deal with, i know i have had bouts of deppression and it can be very scary.
In answer to your question , i for one would be there for my lady , not only for the good times but when her darkness sets in and finds things to hard to deal with . I concider myself as a very caring person , it takes more than just to care for someone , you need to be understanding and totally with her all the way .. Its not about comfort and compassion its all about support . I do love my girl and she does suffer so maybe its easier for me to answer than some ....
I Hope your hypathetical friend gets all the love she deserves and finds a calmness one day... love to you and peace to everyone
2006-08-04 06:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by hattonandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depression is an illness jus like a headache so there is no reason why he would stop loving you not if he really loved you in the first place. your boyfriend should understand that you need him more in the times that you are low more than ever. the way you discribe your boyfriend i dont think a few tears once in a while will make him forget all the laughs that you have when you are not feeling low.
2006-08-03 04:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by brownsuger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course i would stand by her. An old girlfriend had depression and had to up her drugs sometimes and saw a counsellor. Its a case of riding the storm. Taking the good with the bad etc. Otherwise if anyone does not stand by you then they will drop you so easily in the future.
Dave.
2006-08-03 04:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by DAVE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I'd do is this: I'd get her to ask her doctor how he'd feel about prescribing Paroxetine. It's a natural substance that helps the production of seratonin in the brain and can fix depression in a matter of weeks. There's no need for anyone to be depressed nowadays.
2006-08-09 06:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tamarind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain and im so glad your g/f has you to support her.
You also deserve a life of happiness and joy though and if your spending your life being someone elses rock then whats in it for you.
Is the support a two way thing or is it a lot of emotional taking on one side..
2006-08-07 07:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to you.. MAybe if she hadnt of had so many bad things happen to her she wouldnt be in her current mental state, however if you're with someone constantly and you make each other feel good, then her depression will improve. Maybe shes got a hightened sense of awareness and see's things for what they are,shes disullusioned with poeple and life, she needs a honey, that dioesnt mean your her therapist of Dr or that you shouldnt be yourself, maybe just being yourself makes her happy??? Your choice mate. Ask yourself this, do you love her, do you want her, do you feel a need for her, if the answer is no - then you need to move on
2006-08-04 21:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mercy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.
I'd make it my mission to support her and help her get better or at least cope with her depression. I've known one or two people who have suffered/suffer from it and I'm aware that there is the fear that 'normal' people couldn't be bothered to put up with someone who is depressed.
If she was anything like you describe above, all the positives would far outweigh the negative. And so would I!!
2006-08-03 05:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been down that road before. Wasn't fun. Tried to help her really, really hard and the best I could. Tried to get her into therapy. When that failed, I had to break it off. It may sound coldhearted, but it was a hard decision I had to make. She needs to love herself before she can love another person.
2006-08-03 04:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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In the position you give above ...
I would do my best to support her in the ways she needed at the time, whether this was encouragement to continue with her therapy, supporting her through her therapy ( its bloody tough I know, done it ), holding her hand if she was anxious whilst we are shopping, holding her close and telling her I love her, do my best to hold her emotionally, do my best to valdidate her as a person worthy of love from myself and others, try to ameliorate her fears and projections by being there to protect her and giving voice to reason heard or not heard ... And on and on with whatever it takes when it is needed ... I love her and that would be reason enough for me ...
2006-08-03 04:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋