Is it evil?

Question

When I feel wronged I have a tendency to either wish something bad would happen to that person, or want revenge! God did say an eye for and eye didn’t he, but god also said we should lesson to our parents and my mother said if you go for and eye for an eye we would all be blind! People can really piss me off thou when I get fowled for going ya I get more points and some stupid ***** than fowls me and takes them away I wish some one would push her off a cliff, when some one cuts me off when I am driving I hope they get in a car wreck, and when some one calls me a mean name I hope that some one will make them eat soap! Is that normal? Is it evil? Do others sometimes think that way?

Answer 1

Let's look at a very good concept taught by Jesus Christ.

He discussed hwo to deal with people that caues injury/offense. He said "Do not resist him that is wicked, but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other also to him." Jesus doesn't mean that you shouldn't defend yourself if attacked. A slap is not delivered to hurt another physically but rather, to insult. So, Jesus is saying if anyone tries to provoke a fight or any argument, it would be wrong to retaliate.

Jesus also said "However, I say to you: Continue to love your enemies and to pray for those persecuting you."

He also said “All things, therefore, that YOU want men to do to YOU, YOU also must likewise do to them; this, in fact, is what the Law and the Prophets mean."

So yes, it is evil. No matter what.

Answer 2

Do others think like that? Yes, sometimes. I think all humans do.

Is it healthy? No. Neither physically nor spiritually. Physically, holding onto the anger and revisiting it or rehashing it actually causes biochemical changes in your body (blood pressure and adrenaline changes, for example) that are unhealthy over a long period of time.

Spiritually it's also unhealthy, pretty much regardless of what path you follow. Christianity has "Turn the other cheek" in the NT, and also that Vengance is the Lord's, not yours.

My personal belief is that if you dwell on the negative and send out those negative thoughts, the negative energy will return to you threefold. You'll get more sensitive to the perceived and real slights in the world around you, so you'll see more of them. You'll beat yourself up and dwell on THOSE moments, which robs you of any happiness you might otherwise be able to find in THIS moment.

You can't change other people, and you can't change the past, so dwelling on past problems and hurts serves no purpose, IMHO. You can, however, change yourself. Learn from the bad experiences and move forward - don't waste your life looking backward and being pissed off about things that you can't do anything about.

Answer 3

It is normal to get angry and in that anger to wish them to feel bad for making us angry. However, we cause ourselves to be angry because we expect people to act a certain way. If we let go of those expectations and just simply let people be, then we find that we don't get so angry with them (thus we allow ourselves to be in control over our emotions).

It isn't evil to think that way and a lot of people do think that way. It'd only be evil if you acted upon it. Your mother is right. I believe it was Gandhi who said "an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." The Old Testament of the Bible advocates "an eye for an eye", but the New Testament of the Bible (assuming you are reading a Christian Bible- otherwise there is no Old & New Testament) Jesus tells his disciples that while they've heard an eye for an eye that they shouldn't do that, but instead that they should "love your enemy". When you think about it, while on the surface that doesn't make a whole lot of sense, when you dig down deep enough to what he is saying it does make sense. If a person truly is your enemy then all they seek is to upset you, undermine you, and really do harm to you. If all you ever do is respond in kind and with love then they never realize whether or not they are getting to you. They are unable to conquer you and it frustrates them even more...and eventually they just stop and move on to another target to be the enemy of. Those who aren't trying to be your enemy, who just happened to do something that causes you to be upset or angry and may never know it, well if you just love them instead of wanting to get even with them then your entire attitude changes and as come across "stupid" people and people making all kinds of mistakes and errors, if you love them and accept that they make mistakes and that you are just like them and have probably done the same thing, then you find that you don't get upset as much, that these things don't seem to bother you as much and suddenly you don't want them to get into a car wreck, etc.

It really is just about changing one's attitude towards other people.


Be blessed by Frodo!

Answer 4

Forgive but never forget. Revenge is not a way of solving things..Talk it over..Discuss things with people you dislike..Try to work it out that way. Never revenge. You don't wanna do something and then regret doing it. Just let it go..No matter how much pain it caused you. Be a better person by letting go and forgiving.

"An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." - Mahatma Gandhi

Answer 5

Getting angry and saying nasty things are common responses to humans that are ticked off about someone or something. We've all done that, Christian or not, it is human nature and normal. However, when we say bad things or think bad thoughts, we must also turn to God and say God I'm sorry but that person and or that situation really ruffled my feathers and I got angry. Please forgive me for doing and thinking ill towards others and help me curb my appetite of getting too angry at people and situations. If we go to God and confess our sins and confess our anger to Him and ask Him to forgive us, that is the proper thing to do. But, if we don't ask God to forgive us and we continue to harbor ill thoughts and feelings towards those who anger us, then yes it is a sin. Although the Bible talks about an eye for an eye, it also talks about "vengenance is mine" saith the Lord. Take your concerns, anger and frustrations to the Lord ask Him to deal with it instead of you. He will deal with it in His own personal way and timing. He would be more effective than what you could do.

Good luck and I hope I was some what helpful!

Answer 6

yeah, you're right...in the old testament God said an eye for an eye...but when jesus came...he brought new laws and one of them was if someone hits you, turn the other cheek. Hmm...yeah, i know what you mean about just HATING someone. I have definately done that before. but, God really doesn't want that from us (even though it's SO HARD). I mean, God loves EVERYONE no matter what...and he wants us to be like him right? Our job then is also to love everyone no matter what. Just remember to ask God to help ya...it'll be ok...=)

(hope this helps a little)

Answer 7

I wouldn't say it was evil, but I would say you seem to have some anger issues. :) It's human to get angry but we shouldn't wish harm on people. God said that vengence is his.. he will take care of it. Jesus said to love one another and pray for each other. If you accidently cut someone off, you wouldn't want someone wishing you to have a wreck. That person who cut you off could be a single mom with three kids, or a Grandmother who just didn't see you... try to give the world a break. :)

Answer 8

An eye for an eye is the *maximum* punishment. If you accidently kill someone, does the jury automatically condemn you to death?

All the commandments of the "Old Testament" are maximum punishments. They had judges in those days just as we have today. The Talmud is the Law library, but Christians are forbidden from reading it. Try adjudicating law solely from the constitution and see how far you get!

Shalom

Answer 9

I don't think I'm as pissed off a person as you but I surely get angry when somone wrongs me or get faulted for something I didn't do...it is the human condition...Christ would be ably to hold his tongue and and not get angry but humans do not have that luxury....we get angry...it is inevitable...it leads to wars...try to think of other ways to deal with the anger to make your life easier...the famous "counting to 10" might work....just be like...I don't give a **** and move on....don't let some of the little things get too you...they're a waste of time.I learned that along time ago...

Answer 10

Let's just say you wishing something happens to others doesn't really make them feel bad, it just makes you feel bad. Have happy thoughts. The best revenge on someone else is to live your best life and it will piss others off that you are soooo happy.