After my brother's wife died my mom has been really selfish. She hasn't been to see him or his kids or even help out. And someone she refers to them as brats and says that I shouldn't help out because my brother should learn how to raise them.
2006-08-03 03:35:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Another thing is that she acts like I'm doing everything good(which I know I'm not) in my life my brother has made all the wrong decisions. Which he hasn't. She says that he should of never had kids or gotten married an that the best thing for him is to give the kids up for adoption(which he doesn't want to do).
2006-08-03 03:43:24 · update #1
also i would still like some single father tips for my brother. Thanks!
2006-08-03 04:00:19 · update #2
To Blondie. Yes we do have the same fathers. But are father left when I was only 2 years old so my mom became a single mother. And before my brother's wife died she always so nice to him but acted 2-faced to his wife.
2006-08-03 14:40:07 · update #3
I don't know why your mom is being like that. She should try to be there for your brother and be supportive of him and his family. The kids probably act like brats because they are confused. They have lost their mother. Your mom should try to have some compassion. There is nothing wrong with you helping your brother out. It sounds like he has a lot of obstacles to overcome.
2006-08-03 03:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by krisaquarius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is being caring infact. She wants your brother to get use to reality and understand its not easy. Maybe she thinks ur brother didn't do that much around the house helping the children and all and then when the wife died he felt pressure and then suddenly starts to help? Its possible. But the best thing to do is talk to her about it and understand. You should be there 4 ur brother cause he is family and i'm certainly sure you care deeply 4 ur brother and his children. And maybe the children r spoiled or bratty.
2006-08-03 03:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by London qirl . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is wrong to be behaving in this way,she should at least show the man and her grandchildren some sympathy,he has lost a wife and they have lost a mother. And she is very wrong to insist he put them up for adoption. What kind of grandmother is that? Don't listen to her and continue to do what you have been doing, God Bless You for being so caring and I'm sure your brother appreciates it.
2006-08-10 21:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..that's serious!
Did your mom ever like your brother? Did she like your brother's wife? Do you feel comfortable asking your mom why she is like this?
The best thing for you to do is to find help for your brother, since your mom won't help and probably doesn't want you to help out either. The sad thing is that she is missing out on a relationship with her grandchildren.
Counseling is in order. Go to your local public library or community center to find programs that would help your family. Find someone to talk to yourself today! The stronger you are the better you are equipped to help your family.
2006-08-03 03:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by questiongirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really need to have a chat with ur mum and tell her to stop been so heartless and mean he's her son and he's going through a bad time so give him a break maybe u should b mean 2 her and see how she likes but i hope u stick by ur brother always its not easy 4 a man 2 bring up kids on his own
2006-08-11 00:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by juicylucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to your mom. You stand by your brother cuz he needs you more now then ever. Tell your mom that some people do make wrong decisions and I bet she has made a few of her own (by not standing by her own flesh and blood) but that is what life is all about. Making choices and learning by our mistakes. She is selfish and one day it will catch up to her. Good luck.
2006-08-03 04:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your parents, but in this case, I hope you don't. You should be there for your brother, and God bless those children, they need you too. Perhaps your mother is in denial and doesn't know how to cope with the situation. She needs to seek professional help because her son and grandchildren need her. If she thinks they are brats now, wait until they realize that your mother is neglecting their emotional needs...
2006-08-03 03:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... was she always that way? Or did it suddenly happen? Some time a death in the family causes people to act strangely. You can't help how she feels but you can can be there for her. But you also have the right to feel differently than she does. I hope that what ever is bothering her will resolve itself. As for you and your bother and his family I pray for you and hope things will get better
2006-08-03 03:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by lak3rat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe she would act like this, your brother need all the help and understanding he can get. Just ignore her and help your brother, she will regret her decision. I hope everything will go better for your brother in the future.He has my sympathy! God Bless him and the childern!
2006-08-03 03:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by KIM A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really nice that you are trying to help your brother in a diff cult time.Your mom shouldn't be mean those children are her grand children and that her son she should be supported to help him out.Keep the good work up helping out that's great.
2006-08-03 04:46:55 · answer #10 · answered by CAROL M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋