does anyone else feel really bad when they give out to there kids?

Question

my daughter does something bold sometimes i feel so bad and regret and am almost the one saying sorry i feel like if i give out to her too much she wont like me anymore or she'l go off me and want her daddy her gran more

Answer 1

Your job sucks! We have the hardest job in the world, but guess what, we also can never get fired! I have found that I have no choice but to be firm with the kids, or they will drive me insane! We are molding the future, and I think the best adults are from mothers who discipline no matter how painful it may be to us. The fact that you get upset over it shows that you are a good mother.
I have a motto, if parenting is easy, your doing it wrong!!!

Answer 2

Sweetheart, those are some of the pangs of motherhood.
but i assure you that she respects you more when you stand your guard.
if she does something wrong dont be the one to apologise later
scolding her is ur job and you do it cause you love her. Children are very perceptive and they know your weaknesses. worst of all, they will use it against you
if she knows that ur afraid of her not liking you
or going to her dad or gran
shes going to threaten to do just that so she can get whatever it is that she wants from you.
From the views of a daughter, i did the same to my mother.
i left her for my father and it killed her.hurt her alot, but she never backed down. not once. i love her the more for it now and we're best friends. shes the most important person in my life right now.
if she tries to use her father against u and vice versa
scold her for that as well. but lovingly.
in the long run
u will both be happier
good luck
and i hope to hear from you sometime soon
tell me how you guys are getting on

Answer 3

A child need discipline otherwise the house would be a right mess with them breaking things and wrecking things and child having tantrums don't be feeling guilty if you have to tell your daughter off we all have to discipline our children at some stage and as for worrying about if they want daddy or gran more well they aren't gonna let her off with things either .
Remember when a child is ill or needing help who makes it all better.(mummy)
Can't remember the amount of times I've heard" I hate you "being told to me and then next minute its hey mum can you or will you or help me lol

Answer 4

there has to be a fine line, mine can be themselves AND express their own opinion AND swear if they think the situation fits AND they understand why and what the reasons are for behaving 'boldly'

but if you're apologising FOR her and cringing at what she says or does, then oyu need to pick her up on it.

mine just got a mouthful for swearing out of context,
shes almost 16, and i COULD tell her she CANT swear but *I* do, so it would be hypocritical, do as i say , not as i do,

you need to set a few rules, Shes not oging ot think less of you for it ya wally, she will NOt prefer another relation JUST becasue you tell her off or set a rule here and there,, come on BE the parent...

you have the rest of your time whenb she's older and responsible for herself...to be friends
mind you i hope you arent talking about an 8 year old or something...otherwise pull the reins in woman!

Answer 5

Given out? What does that mean? Hitting her?
Does something bold? Sorry, I don't understand the question so can't help honey - there's always plenty of parents on here though so someone will advise

Answer 6

It's more important while children are young and in your care that you be a parent and not a friend. In the long run, if you're a diligent parent, who sets and consistantly enforces rules and boundaries, your children will have much more respect for you. There is plenty of time to be friends later. And they do grow up fast.

Remember- consistancy is key!

Answer 7

Here latley I have been feeling that way because now my 23 month old daughter cries for me everytime I have to leave her with my aunt or dad to watch her while I go to work. I just wish I could be a stay at home mom. I would love to be able to spend time with her.

Answer 8

that's the hardest part of being a parent.
knowing that your kid did something and you have to reprimand them for it can be tough. maybe they will want to go to dad or gran for a bit, but they will get over it.
show them just as much love as dsicipline and you will be fine.

also, be sure that dad is helping in the disciplining, too. that way you won't always feel like the bad guy.

take care.

Answer 9

I think that any caring parent cares when reprmanding a child of any age toddler to twenties but if it is for a reason you should not say sorry but sit down and explain the reason so that they know why you told them off.

Answer 10

children need boundaries no matter how small or great. and learning to except the answer "no" will help her later in life. it will teach her respect not only for you but others as well. so don't give in to her every need or want. it will be tough at first but stand your ground . so what if she don't "like" you she will love and respect you for caring enough to show her the right way..