I have a boyfriend and he constantly tells me that he loves me, but I don't want to say it to him, because I do not know whether it is just affection or real love? Are you in love and how did you realise that you were? Just give me some pointers because I do not want to lie to him unintentionally because I care about him a hell of a lot. He said that he does not care if I do not tell him that I love him, but I do think it hurts a little. I am confused? Help?1?
2006-08-03 03:19:51 · 11 answers · asked by B!tch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to ask, you are not in love. I've had 2 relationships exactly like that, the guys kept saying they loved me, and I felt very uncomfortable saying it back, but I really liked them and cared for them, so I was confused. I was always asking family what they thought. Then I met my fiance, I ended up being the first to say I love you. I NEVER felt the need to ask anyone what they thought again. I had no doubts. He has flaws, everybody does, but I felt I could live the rest of my life with those flaws, they don't bother me at all. We're still together, going on 7 years, getting married in January, and I still feel that cuddly cozy feeling with him. So don't worry yourself, just enjoy the relationship even if it isn't love, but don't lead him on. In other words, don't say I love you if you don't really mean it.
2006-08-03 03:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by just wondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that your very young....like under 19.
The best way to handle this...is to look him straight in the eye and tell him....
"Love is something that develops over a long period of time. Its a feeling and emotion that has to be tested and tried before a person will recognize it as love. You and I are way to young to even come close to what being in love is all about, so lets wait until we get older and are better able to understand what love is really all about."
2006-08-03 03:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly there is no way to know for sure if it is love ... just try to feel how intense the moments are with him ... How you just lose track of time with you are with eachother ... how you can dream of being together for a long long time ... see if you want to take care of him when he grows old ... see if the words "I love you" are coming to your mind and you are forcing yourself not to say it ...
I can say that you are headed that way because you realize that you not saying it back hurts him ... without him telling you ...
All the best ... looks like you guys are meant to be :)
2006-08-03 03:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by Subharnab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can't get him off your mind, no matter how hard you try. When you go out of your way to make him happier, to help him with something, to surprise him. When you would give up your own personal happiness for his own good.
That's love. <3
2006-08-03 03:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Boltage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, if you have to ask, your not in love, your in lust. Think of all his annoying little habits, the things that bug you the most - are they really that bad? Love is acceptance, and comfort
2006-08-03 03:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "I love you too!" You won't no if it's true love unless he asks you to marry him...sometimes even then u won't no..u have to feel it.
2006-08-03 03:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Got_a_question? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u think about him constantly, about any encounters the two of you have had, and while u think of them u get those butterflies in ure stomach.
2006-08-03 03:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by LADY J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll know,i have and i still am!but unfortunatly,she isn't,but when you are its something that hits you right in the gut.you can't eat,you can't sleep.......its not for wimps...ala..me!!
2006-08-03 03:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by tour_duck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you feel and know that you just can't live without him... then you know you love him
2006-08-03 03:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by alexandredz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know when you are in love? ** YOU JUST KNOW!
2006-08-03 03:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by dvl_n_dskyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋