what can i do?

Question

My brother had recently had gone to jail and he is everything to me. everyday we are together. ever since he left i havent been myslef. i have been quite and sad. what can i do to be happy again.

Answer 1

Relax, you seem to be going througha slight depression, try to talk to other friends and go out and have fun. I know it may seem bad to be having fun while he is in total isolation or going through such tough times but remember this he is going through those times because he wanted to, he did the things that were illegla and not good and so he chose his own destiny just as you must choose yours, by loving yourself first and having fun and creating a joyful happy life for yourself. Happiness and joy come from within remember that sweetie and simply pray for him b/c thats the ony thing you cna do for him right now...

Answer 2

I'm really sorry for you! That must be difficult. I'm sure it's even more difficult for him. Think of what you most enjoyed about the time you spent with him. Then plan how you can recreate some of that by visiting him or sending him letters or calling him. I'm sure a heartfelt letter would mean a lot to him. After that, you need to decide how you will "go on" while he is gone. Find some family and close friends who can support you during this time. Let yourself have fun and laugh again without feeling guilty. It will just take time.

Answer 3

Learn from his mistakes. Don't fall into the same pattern as he did. I'm not saying he's a bad person but it looks like he made a bad choice and now must go to jail. It's ok. This will give you an opportunity to figure out what you want in life. It's perfectly natural to be sad and feel your emotions. Time will help you feel better. Just keep yourself busy and before you know it... he'll be out (depending on what he did).

Answer 4

Start righting some letters to him and go and visit him at jail. Accept some calls from him and just keep ur head up. He will eventually get out maybe not as soon as u would like but soon. Just keep thinking positive you need to for your brothers sake sweetie.

Answer 5

Just go visit him as much as you can, and show your support to him, he will know you are a sister you can always count on. But also let him know what he did was wrong, it you know the reason why he whent to jail. Try to make him think positive, and to stay out of drugs and fights inside jail, as it will help in getting out quicker and without getting hurt.

Answer 6

That sucks, but I'm sure he is in jail because he did something he shouldn't have done. learn from it and never stop supporting him to do better. in the mean while try to relax and look at the positive, when he gets out you guys will be closer than before.

Answer 7

Try to work on the reason why he's in jail, get legal help. Continue communication whether it's by phone, mail or visiting

Answer 8

write him betters and be content in knowing that he'll be back. i kind of know how you feel, my boyfriend (no longer that) got locked up ... i thought i would marry him, and then one day i find out he's not coming back for a while. it is hard, but trust me, u will be happy again. its a bit hard at first tho, PLUS he's ur bro, the love will never end on both of ur ends. be patient and remember, write him lots of letters and visit often.

Answer 9

Try to convince your brother to be a law abiding citizen. That will take up some time. Good luck.

Answer 10

Nothing you can do. He put himself in jail so you shouldn't act like you are in jail for whatever he did.