what shoul i do?

Question

im going out with this older guy, he has two children and was married, im 19 hes 30,
is it worth carrying on or not,? i like him alot but im not in love with him, but it has only been 2weeks since we started dating

Answer 1

find someone with no kids and that is close to your age

Answer 2

The age difference might be workable..but the children finishes it for me. You're 19 and just really starting out in life. Do you really want to be saddled down with two children at 19? You have so much more living to do yet.......try to invision all those nights you can't go out because there isn't a sitter, or one of the children are sick, or they have baseball etc..... Are you ready for a "prefab" family, because that is what you are getting into. Think about this one with your head instead of your heart and make your decision. Best of luck!

Answer 3

Hi, if I were you I'd call it a day, if he's not making your heart miss a beat now he never will. Do you really want to be lumbered with a 30 year old with 2 kids at your age. You need to have some fun with people your own age, there's plenty of time for growing up ! Good luck and be happy.

Answer 4

Its so not worth it. Your still young and really dont need to get involved with someone who at 30 is already married and divorced and saddled with 2 kids. Your just asking for difficulties when you dont have to be. Its only been 2 weeks. Get out now before you start having any feelings.

Answer 5

You are way to young, to be burdened.

Go out and experience life, this relationship is fine, but keep it as a learning experience, do not commit to anything defiant.

You still have a wonderful life to live, and probably still in school, and you will get flack from your parents.
It's Nice you care for him, but on the other side, he maybe using you for companionship, and easy sex. with 2 kids it makes it difficult to find someone.

At 19 you should limit you age to 25 or possible 27 not higher, it's all to do with maturity levels and understanding, it's more fun learning together (same maturity level), then someone who knows the answers (much more mature)

Answer 6

find yourself a guy with no kids. This isn't worth your time. And Im not sure your ready to take all of that weight at your age. Guys with kids always ends up with drama. trust me ive been there, done that. Maybe you dont see it now. But you will. And you won't be his top priority. you know how things are always gravy in the begining. He may be sweet to you, funny, acts young at heart. That's why you can relate to him so much. But at this point age in time for him..He knows what he wants out of life...He's at the poitn where he's just looking for someone to settle down with and possibly have some more kids with, either playing you for a piece of as, or he just need a compagnon.. hahahaha. He'll just lure you in first into his trap!

Well just get out of this relationship as soon as you can ok. It's not worth it!!!! Be careful. Just tell him that you want to have someone your age. Im the the kind of person to say that love doesn't have an age. But he has kids. And that isn't a good sign. I mean you may be falling for him. But you'll have to involve the kids later on to you daily routine. I think that's what you may be in doubt of. And by finding someone your age. I mean someone who doesn't have kids, that are in school, just someone at your same level. you know what I mean someone like 20-26ish. Theyre are some mature guys at that age you just need to find them.

Good luck!!!<3

Answer 7

If he already had two kids and he is older then he is probably expecting more out of the relationship.. your still young you should probably move on and enjoy your younger year, instead of becoming a ready made family with this guy and his kids!
good luck.. but if your heart is saying that you care for him alot, then you can stay with him.. but try not to meet the kids to soon, because you don't want them becoming attached to you and then if you break up with him, they will have to go through that hurt all over again!

Answer 8

it's a little too early to tell. but if you do plan to pursue this relationship take into consideration, the ex is never going to be out of the picture because of the kids. is she ok so far? how are the kids? have you even met any of them yet?
unfortunately, when engaging in this type of relationship, you not only get the guy, but all the other baggage that comes along with that package...

Answer 9

Woooooaaah girl, you've only been seeing him two weeks! Slow down and enjoy yourself before you start asking questions like this. Eleven years isn't so very bad and if he's got children he may well be a responsible type. Just have fun and enjoy it while it's good!

Answer 10

I don't think it's worthed having a relationship to a person you are not in love with, it will be gonna be unfair to the other guy if you give hm hope because you continue dating him, since you're still young its better to go in a relationship whom you feel in love with, don't do things that you will regret in the end.

Answer 11

Break it off--find someone your own age that you can have your own kids with. There is a lot of maturing that happens between ages 20 and 30. In my opinion you will be happier in the long run if you find someone your own age who you can make a fresh start with and not have any drama. Think about it, you are going to be caught up in SO MUCH drama between him, his kids, and his ex-wife. I wouldn't want to be juggled between his kids and ex-wife.