Can a "goodie goodie" and a "bad boy" work?

Question

I was getting ready to end this anyway. 2 weeks ago he FREAKED out because I went to dinner with an old FRIEND. He thought I was cheating, which was the furthest from the truth. Anyway, I forgot that usually when people freak about this stuff- they are the one's with something to hide. Well, I was right. I checked his phone today 2C if he still had the last text message I sent him... I found another # that came up lots of times - both sent & received - and I looked @ a few of the messages. Nothing too scandalous, but they are obvious. So, what do I do? How do I handle this? Be creative. I need help here. He has been a complete a$$hole 2 me. I've lent him $ he hasn't paid back. He is a classic male chauvinistic pig. Lies, cheats, steals, etc. I don't like to play games, but I want to try with this one. Got any good ones?

Answer 1

If you play games, you'll only end up falling flat on your ***. My best way to handle this is to just dump him and get it over with. He'll dwell on that for a while because HE was actually dumped by you. Besides, be the better person and be extremely patient and kill him with kindness....unless it get ugly. LOL...Don't waste your valuable time playing games with him. I know you'd like to put laxatives in his chocolate milk or slip a bit of NyQuil in his beer. or even cut up all the underwear he has with scissors, and throw out every pair of socks he has or blow out his tires...etc. BUT trust me, you'll never be satisfied with the revenge. It will keep going and when is enough finally enough? That's childish and you could be doing other things instead of making someone elses life miserable. Like say, making yourself happy and finding the time to forget about him maybe? This part of your life with him is over....let it be and keep walking. You 2 are simply not for each other. And how didn't figure out that he was a chauvinists pig yet, I have no idea. I guess the true side of him proly came up after he got a little action from you....Hmmm....w/e the case I hope you take whatever the good was from this relationship and smile upon the next adventure you have with others....Good Luck. Take care.

Answer 2

usually they do have something to hide, but then again, perhaps he has been screwed over before and is scared by it and just has a trust issue?
one way or the other it does not condone him being a butt hole to you!
If you don't like the games, which i couldn't agree with you more, instead, why get creative? just be straight up with this whole thing!
tell him what you know, how you feel and what you are going to do about it! the thing about a "goodie goodie," but badboys think you are just going to sit there and take it!!! had the same thing happen to me.
when i finally told him i was over it, REALLY over it after 2 years of being cheated on an used he begged me not to leave him. honey leaving him was the best thing i ever did. a man like that is everything you are not! its cool if your differences are ones that you can bot benefit from, but this isn't, and you could be headed for alot of heartache.

at the end of the day you are going to follow your heart, but really think about what you are going to end up sacraficing for this "male chauvinistic pig" exactly that YOUR HEART!

Answer 3

Forget the "bad boys". They are never worth the trouble. And I do mean NEVER. The best way to drive them crazy is not to fight, get upset or show any signs that you care about him at all. They think that you will fall apart without them. Show him otherwise. Tell him it's over. If he asks why, you can say "it's just not working for me". If he calls, don't take his calls and don't ever call him back.

When a woman shows that she is strong, confident, and independent, that drives the "bad boys" crazier than anything.

If you do any of the things they expect from insecure, desperate women, like yelling at him, slashing tires, or any of that other stuff.... the only thing you accomplish is making yourself look like a "psycho ex".

Living well is the best revenge.

Answer 4

Do not cheat on him - stay honest and open yourself - realise this is more of his insecurity - and he is probably making his career so he really does not have that much time for you.

You will have to make your own life for the time being (like most women that marry young) and try not to feed his insecurity.

So stay reliable and honest but try to realise your own goals too - a good time e.g. to go to school and educate yourself.

Do not get worked up about this he needs you to be calm and reliable - if you can you will surely keep him.

Good luck.

Answer 5

personally i would end it with him like that
u could give him proof that u went to dinner with an old friend by having him come over
u should take his phone and call that number that is there often to talk to this person
if this person is true enough she will untangle the situation hopefully saying that ur boyfrind needs to trust u adn that u need to trust in him and this person
if finally this works ask him for ur money if he says no threaten to break up with him
persuade him in any way u can to get ur money back and to make u happy Good luck!!!! hope this works out for the two of u

Answer 6

Well, first of all...a goodie goodie - bad boy combo can be very exciting...and can work if thats what they want.

And...I don't necessarily buy into the "first one to freak is the one hiding something" philosophy either...

What I would say is....this is sooo not worth playing games over, or being creative, or even spiteful...

Your energy and love, your respect and trust are better served on someone that returns that.

Just let him go...and enjoy being free until you find someone that strikes your fancy.

Answer 7

That never works,...way to much drama.And as far as getting back at him,....I always go after their best friend and screw her silly.Keep it hush hush and try to get my money back and then some.After you've done that, find out who the other girl is.Talk to her, don't get mad get even.Find out where they are going to meet next and be there.Chances are, she don't know about you, so be careful, make it seem as if you are trying to watch out for her best interest as well as your own, she will probably be thankful and go along with it.And if she don't?So what, sooner or later he'll cheat on her too.good luck oops, I almost forgot.Maybe you think you and that other guy are just "friends",But I guarentee he wants to get a little (unless he's gay).Guy's and girl's can never just be friends.Someone always wants to screw someone.No matter what he may say.

Answer 8

I'm confused. Are you trying to make the relationship work or do you want a smart-*** way to end it? How is it that it is OK for you to be abused? How is it OK that you lend him money and he doesn't pay it back? I'd tell myself I deserve better treatment than I've been getting and require it of folks before they get close to me.

Answer 9

Yeah, you should end it. First and foremost, he would probably want you to compromise yourself later to meet his...let's call them 'needs'.

From what you say he's jealous, a liar, cheats on you, steals, and mooches off your cash flow. Why are you still with this guy, hun?! Tell him not to let the door hit him on the way out.

Answer 10

Men that can't control their anger are dangerous and you can get hurt seriously dealing with them. Get out unless you would enjoy getting the crap beat out of you on a regular basis, contracting VD or Aides or visiting prison. Don't pick out your coffin this young in your life.