What is the best way to respond to critical or insulting email from a good (?)friend?

Question

We've been emailing each other for several years...all good things, jokes, birthday greetings holidays,etc. She's turned a little nasty. What could be wrong??

Answer 1

Ask her how she's doing. Does she have additional stress in her life right now? Tell her that you're there for her if she needs to talk.

Answer 2

It could be something going on in her personal life that has made her turn a little nasty. Sometimes when a person is upset they transter their anger on to the ones they love and not on the one that really deserves it.

It could be something you said to her that offended her. Just ask her if you did anything wrong or offended her in any way. I am sure if you did it was not intended to be an insult. If it is something you said then you can explain yourself and tell her sorry. More than likely it is something else that is going on in her life and she is feeling a little stressed.

I have a friend that I am open and honest with her. Once she told me she just couldn't understand why this guy wouldn't open up to her and tell her he loved her. She wanted to know my thoughts on it. I was honest in what I thought. I told her if I was a guy I wouldn't open up right away because she does tend to jump from guy to guy. She was hurt, offended and in denial. I could tell it in her voice. I really didn't mean to hurt her feelings I just stated what I saw standing on the outside. I also told her it could be on his part because she was the first girl he dated sense his divorce 6 years ago.

Yeah I make her mad. I hurt her feelings. Still we are friends. It's not like I go out of my way to hurt her feelings and she knows this. She knows that if she asks she will get the brutal truth from me. My honesty is partly why we are still friends to this day.

I'm telling you this story because I want you to know no matter how much we make our friends mad they will stick around as long as your true friends.

Just ask her whats wrong.
Good luck

Answer 3

1. maybe she got in a fight with her family or something, and she emailed u, telling u about it. so maybe she didnt try to b nasty.

2. email back asking why she sent it. (but send it kindly, no mean words)

i dont know if these could help or not, but good luck with the situation!

Answer 4

Have you said anything to upset her ??? If you can`t thing of anything then send her an email saying that you can`t remember saying anything to upset her, but that your sorry if you have, then leave the ball in her court, If she doesn`t reply then she`s not a (good) friend, good friends do fall out but always make it up.

Answer 5

all that you can really do is try to be honest w/ her and tell her that it is bothering you . if she is your real friend , then she will understand completely. maybe she is going through something that has upset her , or maybe she is around some negative influences that is causing a serious change in her attitude. good luck. keep on w/ your good attitude to help to steer her back in the right direction.

Answer 6

If she is really a good friend, maybe she intends to give helpful advice. If she is just being insulting, either ignore it or quit the mail.

Answer 7

if she is really a good friend then be direct with her and ask her.

it's a good way to determine if she really is a good friend.


And, by the way, if you think she is a good friend then perhaps it's constructive critisism....perhaps you should think about what she says before you reply. It may be right/true.

Answer 8

Just say Yo Mama

Answer 9

The only way to find out is to come right out and ask her.

Answer 10

Block her..if she has something nasty to say, make her do it to your face.