i dated this guy for about a year or so,at first he was great! as in nice,honest,good guy.then as time flew he was getting very possesive!he was weird because when we'd go out to club's and l if a guy got close to me or asked if i wanted a drink or just stopped buy our table.all hell would break loose!i mean a fight for sure,then when i get home he forcefully would stay at my apt where he would have rough sex with me!(which i did not like!)and cry afterward's.he didnn't like no one near me like my mom/dad and brother's.and i thank god i am no longer with him!how i escaped?don't know?but now he follow's me around everywhere i go.even to some club's downtown,he tell's guy's that i am his girl which i am not! and he's a pest!iwant to enjoy a good/new relationship with a nice guy.you know build up a relationship and i am afraid i am stuck with this person i've told my brother's about it which they made a report already they are cop's but i cant leave comfortable to a party or no where!
2006-08-03 02:39:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have benn seperated for about 2 month's now and i did filed a restraining order recently also i changed phone#'s e-mail's and even work,and i will move soon.thank's to all for your help!
2006-08-03 03:03:39 · update #1
Congratuations for leaving this guy. He obviously has issues! Problem is that you are still stuck with his issues even though you have left.
You don't mention how long it has been. But if it is recent then he is still moping and unable to get over you. He could become dangerous or hurt someone that you like in the future.
You may want to set some limits for him. If he talks to you then perhaps you need to remind him that you are not together, state that he is to stay away from you. If you don't talk (which might be better), remember that space away from each other helps. I would remember that.
Look up stalking...
You may want to clear up your wacko situation before you date again.
Good luck
2006-08-03 02:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new set of friends.
Don't accept calls from him.
Don't talk to him at all, if he talks to you,say"I'm done,it's over!and I have nothing to say to you!"
If you see him at a club...leave.
If he follows you go to the police station and get a restraining order.
Do not be afraid to put him in jail.
And NEVER have sex with him again.
With a PPO personal protection order he can't even call you without going to jail.
Then get on with your life.
2006-08-03 02:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by ronchoward 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you ought to keep scoping out new guys. look for one who's a bad*** that simply enjoy a good fist fight and isn't looking for a relationship. although they're not the best to date(so don't date him) they're great fun to party with and since they enjoy that kinda violence, pretty soon that annoying ex will get tired of feeling pain every time he harrasses you.
2006-08-03 02:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a protection order AND figure out what it was that made him attractive to you. Both are very important.
2006-08-03 02:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don;t worry and i;m sure after report to the cops he will stop follow you and if he did and you know that him call the police dial 911 for your own good i think that this guy is crazy
2006-08-03 03:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a protection order out on him, then he wont be able to come near you or be at where you are. congrats on leaving him. if you like to chat email me.
2006-08-03 02:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chnage the place for sometime & for god sake be carefull always..
2006-08-03 02:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by susan m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice to hear that u left him. and best of luck for your future
2006-08-03 02:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by bitsman123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋