When my boyfriend and I met I told him I never want to get married, but then I didnt know that I could be as happy as I am with him. I want to let him know that I would like to get engaged and married at some point, but not neccessarily now! We are both really in love, but I dont want him to feel like I want him to ask me now! (We are going to his mates wedding in Cyprus next year, that seems like a good time to get engaged haha)
2006-08-03 02:38:11 · 18 answers · asked by ME 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is up to him when to ask you to marry. And it is really tacky to get engaged at someone elses wedding. Even a trip wedding because you are going there for someone else. Even if you did get engaged there you are still going to be gushing all about it and taking attention from the bride. NOT FAIR. However, if you do want to get engaged you need to talk about it. If you can't talk about it then you are not ready for that.
2006-08-03 02:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A agree with the previous answerer. It is in poor taste to get engage on someelse's wedding, so if he has enough sense and manners, hopefully he won't do it there. However, taking you to that wedding as a date says a lot about your relationship and certainly will put ideas in his head.
Use the opportunity of the wedding that you will be attending to drop off some hints, such as: Oh, they are so in love, they are wonderful together, some people are really mean to be together forever. I am very happy that they are getting married, it's beautiful to know that you have found your soulmate and make it official"
Tell him hints all the time, you will have the perfect excuse to talk about it since you are probaly making arrangements to go.
Good luck
2006-08-03 02:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if he wants the same thing as you do as far as been engaged and married is concerned, you could either go round the houses and ask that way or you could just come straight out with it and ask him his feelings on marriage, bet he will be as shocked and surprised as you were when you realised you did want to be married to this wonderful man after all, if he says he wants to but its still a bit soon or in the early stages for him then don't push it and just go with the flow for a while, enjoy him and be happy.
2006-08-04 05:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready to get enaged or married yet then there is no need to talk about getting engaged or married.
Instead, make it perfectly clear to him how you feel. Tell him you've never been happier and you absolutley adore him.
Perhaps steer the occasional conversation in the direction of marriage and give your opinions on it. For example, my friends getting married this year and I often say to my boyfreind things like "at my wedding I'd want this...... or I'd proabbaly end up having loadss of bridesmaids" Its not a direct request for him to propose because I don't want to get married yet but it is letting him know I do want to get married one day.
2006-08-03 03:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to eventually get married then you need to be in an open relationship and know what your goals in life are.
If you can't explain that your more open to the suggestion of marriage, although not now but can picture it being part of your life in the future then you shouldn't be thinking about getting married just yet.
Don't try hinting by leaving bridal magazines around, men don't get hints. Before you know that you want to spend your life with someone you need to know you can have a two way conversation with him.
Discuss, discuss, discuss
2006-08-04 03:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he with you because you don't want to get married? Maybe he doesn't either, so to him this is a perfect relationship. You need to tell him you've changed your views on this so he knows. Something like you said in the statement above.
As far as getting engaged during the wedding week ? Do so before or after.
2006-08-03 02:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come straight out and say that you`ve made a mistake, that you never thought you`d be so happy with anyone as you are with him, you want to spend the rest of your life with him, and if he feels the same, what does he feel about getting engaged ..... but, don`t rush him and don`t talk about it at his mates wedding.
2006-08-03 02:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try buying the occasional wedding magazine. If he is waiting to ask you because you previously said you never wanted to marry, he might get the hint if he sees bridal magazines. Ask him questions about his perfect wedding if you watch a movie about a wedding (watch Wedding Crashers first!). Just drop hints, and if he asks, tell him how you feel about marriage now. Be sure to tell him that you aren't expecting anything now, but you are open to the possibility!
Good Luck! It's amazing to find that person that changes your life!
2006-08-03 02:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start dropping hints, that's what I did. It seemed to work for me. We were engaged on Valentines Day of 2005 and married on May 20th 2006.
2006-08-03 04:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by kelynn1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was his reaction when you told him at the start that you never wanted to get married? happy or disappointed? if not happy then . . . why don't you ask him when you go to cyprus next year?! unconventional i know but could be great!
2006-08-03 02:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by Empress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋