2006-08-03 02:37:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to a guy.
2006-08-03 02:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was your friend I would ask you why you want to meet a girl in the first place. DO you have a preconceived idea that the fact that you speak to a person of the opposite sex means something bad or embarrassing? Do you consider yourself an interesting and/or intelligent person? I think you should ask yourself what the real purpose is behind your question. And then if you really believe in yourself I am sure that your natural human instinct will help you open up and just be a natural and intelligent guy. Thats what girls like you know ! Along with a good sense of humor !
good luck !
2006-08-03 09:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by bird_of_peace62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax a little, you don't have to be perfect, they aren't. Can you picture the girl as someone you'd hang out with? How would you act around your friends? Try not to stress too much over the "dating" part, when you get down to the center of it, a girlfriend should be as close as a best friend and you shouldn't have to worry about how to talk or how to act. If you can't be who you are when you're with a girl, she won't last long as a girlfriend.
Who knows, she might be having the same thoughts and is terrified of saying the wrong thing to you.
2006-08-03 09:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Merris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stop worrying about the talking part for a while and just work on the eye contact. You may have to force yourself if you really want to do it, but once you can keep eye contact for a few seconds, you can work up to just saying "Hi." Small steps, if you're too nervous to just start talking right away.
2006-08-03 09:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by francesfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start from the bottom. Meet girls from the internet, once u've met a few, u should have a better idea of what to talk to them. Keep this process many many times until u're comfortable with this, then move on to the real world. Some took longer than others to master this, just dun giv up~!
2006-08-03 09:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mr F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody knows u r shy unless u tell them. Go ahead, conquer your fears. What about trying to use a sunshade while making an eye to eye contact with her. Practice makes perfect. Do it now.!You are missing 1/3 of your life!
2006-08-11 05:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by cactus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romeo, Rasputin, Lothario and all the known 'cool guys' were not born with 'it'. They grew into 'it' and perfected 'it'.
Just try hard not to force it, don't push it, let it come naturally. One word, one look, one second, one day at a time. You'll get there.
You can't believe what it took me. On my way there, I once told a girl one Valentine's day, after days of practice and self-psyching, "I'd like you to be my girlfriend". She replied most coolly "I'm a girl and I'm your friend". Killed me for a long time. And she never returned the presents and cards!!!!!
But today, I'm...!!! Hang in there mate.
2006-08-03 10:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by Killmaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you have a low self confidence.
So better way to overcome this situation is just to go out with your friend and emulate him as a girl friend.
Also practice of talking like you are going to talk with a girl in front of mirror and make a note of your body language, it would help you to boost on your confidence.
2006-08-03 09:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are infatuated with the girl you want to talk to, but you know deep down it would never work. Get it out of your head and find someone you can talk to. No point in liking someone that you know things wouldnt work out with, it's just not healthy in the long run and you will end up hurting over it.
2006-08-03 09:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jenkins77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the exact same way with the guy that I am into. I can't look at him, speak to him, or anything without turning blood red! All I can say is try to build up your self-confidence and go for it. If it's hard even to do that, if you're like me, don't sweat it. It will come. (:
2006-08-03 09:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by Slippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think that some girls are just as shy as you are, so try to approach them as they feel exactly like you do.
That way you know how exactly she feels.
There's no problem to be shy and there are lots and lots of people like that. Just wait until you fell comfortable to talk to a girl, as sometimes the shyness is your mind telling you, you're not ready yet, so wait until you feel more comfortable and secure of yourself.
2006-08-03 10:10:35 · answer #11 · answered by Mary7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋