Is it okay to leave my baby at my mom's for a week?

Question

me and my boyfriend work and i go to school and i leave my baby girl with my mom pretty much everyday. i dont take her home till the weekend and my brothers (13 and 16) take care of her. they feed her put her to sleep, they
re my free babysitters. what do u think ?

thank u thank u for all ur answers!! my sis in law does that but everyone (her mom and brothers) seem to be okay with the kid there all the time. hell i thi nk she should be the one to struggle with the kid, thats what a teenage unmarried mom has to go through !!! duh I hear u but i cant seem to break it to my mom in law !! she helps her out too much

yes and thank God im not the only one who thinks that way!! the parents should be the ones who struggle. thats what parenting is about !!!

no i do not come see her during the week, shes there everyday and im at my apartment with my boyfriend

Im married to her brother, thank u very much and im a very responsible mother, and no i will not end up ever like her. hell no im too good for that

lol at mslorikoch

what the hell are u talking about ?? im a married woman and i have a child with her brother, what strange man are u talking about ??? i dont have to lie, im very proud of who i am. I had asked this question in other ways but the only way i got straight answers from people was like this, me pointing out what she does as though i was her. I am married with her brother and we have a kid together, what strange men ??? ur jealous cus u dont have anybody and im not jealous of her, her stupid boyfriend is a loser.

Answer 1

That's why they have something called adoption. You where old enough to have sex...you should take care of your bastard child that is a result of your "playing grown up". Your mother is just as much to blame as you. She failed as a mother to you, and now she going to screw up the life of your kid. Good job. Children learn what they live. What does your Dad think about all of this?...Oh, I'm sure he's not in the picture.

Answer 2

If your family is okay with it and enjoy your baby's company, then there is nothing wrong with them helping out. However, I think it is innapropriate for you to just be with her during the weekend, for you and for your child. Once your daughter is older, she will be more attatched to her grandmother since she was the one who technically "mothered" her. I have seen this happen in many cases. I know some girls who were raised by their grandmother's and now they hold endless grudges towards their actual moms. Maybe you should consider dropping her off in the morning, and picking her up in the evenings and spending time with her before you guys go to sleep. One thing I don't understand is, first you say you and your boyfriend, then you say something about being married, but whatever. You are a mother now, you have more responsibilities. Yes, of course school is important, but now you have a family to take care of. If doing school and taking care of your family is more than you can handle, why not do part-time school? Please put your family's needs first, a baby really needs both of their parents to grow.

Answer 3

if you and your mom is ok about it i think that's fine. but i really don't know how you can do it going a week without seeing your baby.because i went to Texas to see my brother at the base for a week and i left my 6 month old with my mother in law and i missed him so much i called every night to see how he was and almost crying when i got off the phone because i couldn't hold him and do stuff like a mom should be doing.which i knew nothing would happen to him i guess it was because he was my first baby and i was a new mom and i felt like i wasn't doing the wrong thing but i left him because i didn't want him to be in heat because all the time we was in Texas we was outside in the heat except at night.

Answer 4

How can you stand to be away from your baby so much? Mine isn't even born yet and I'm having trouble even thinking about someone else caring for my baby. It's great that you have free babysitters. And very kind of them to do so, you better be sure they know how much you appreciate them.
I'd definitely want to be around my child more. Think of all the things you are missing. They are only babies once.

Answer 5

Your a working mom and you got to school i would say two thumbs up on that. If you feel your child is secure with that and you are comfortable and your mother is fine with that then I'd say fine sounds good. However I think maybe you need to spend more time with your child if you can.

Answer 6

Well, I feel sad that it sounds like your mom is the one raising your baby girl and you are probably missing out on A LOT with her and she is probably missing you and bonding more with Grandma than with you. Do you at least SEE her during the week? Does Grandma feel taken advantage of or is she glad to be the free sitter?

Answer 7

You and your husband should really be the ones putting her sleep at night, in her own bed, this might mean you'll have to wake up an hour earlier to drop her off in the morning, but at least she'll know where is home and who her parents are.

Answer 8

You need to take responsibility for what you've done. It sounds more like youre the babysitter or the parent with weekend visits. They should pay you for letting them take a break.

What a deadbeat.

Answer 9

I don't know.....personally, I could not be a "weekend mom" -- how do you bond with your child? I get my granddaughter every two weeks for the weekends and the two weeks make me insane because I miss her. This is your child --- I had a lot of trouble dropping mine off just to go to work and couldn't wait to pick them up after work...
That's just me.

Answer 10

i too were given a male and lady dwarf hamster. the mummy had one clutter. 3 ladies and one boy. i save the three ladies with the mummy and they only do nice. they don't wrestle and they are all very healthful, yet their cage is noticeably tremendous, they have an outstanding style of room to get faraway from one yet another.