Why did my boyfriend go on about bein engaged for a long time then call it off after a argument a week later?

Question

me and my boyfriend always had a rocky relationship but we r very close too and love eachother like crazy so we stayed with eachother cuz we kno this will work. so weeks go on and we r gettin on betta than we ever have in a long time aand it feel great!!! even gettin to the point of doin da same things an finishin eachothers sentances without knoin but wen we do we laugh. neway he proposes and i ask lots of questions do u think its the right time blah blah and i couldnt change his mind but i agreed and i did want to marry him....neway a week goes by and i got drunk and i realised we arnt gettin on as much anymore and havin a argument everyday and we talked and cryed and he said maybe we shouldnt b engaged. i dont kno y he did that because we worked it out after.... i think hes giving up too easily.... but now hes going on about getting engaged again and i dont think its a good idea cuz it hurt when we didnt want it.... what you think sorry 4 long story lol

Answer 1

I think that you guys need to sit down and have a heart to heart. Find out exactly what each other wants and feels. Engagements are part of a huge commitment and change in your lives. You don't want to do the wrong thing and definitely don't want to get hurt more in the process.
Have you guys thought about taking a break to see if it is really what you want or not? Maybe you aren't as happy as you think you are and would be happier apart from each other. You need to think about all of the possibilities.
Don't get engaged until you guys both know EXACTLY what you want. It is very important to make sure that you are both happy with yourselves and happy with what is going on before you make a life commitment to each other.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I'll be straight up with you. Obviously neither of you are ready for this type of committment. You can't just propose a big deal like this and then call it off a week later. This is a real deal. You both need to hold off on the engagement and get your priorities straight before you go any further. You don't want this to end in an early divorce. You both want to be happy and in love, but the main thing is to be happy an in love with one another to take a step like marriage. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I dont think anyone could really comment with any degree of accuracy without understanding you, your boyfriend and your relationship a bit better.

To at least try to answer your question, having a relationship thats constant arguments and conflict can wear anyone down, making emotions fluctuate between hot and cold.

Perhaps you should think more about what you say when you have ahd a few, and perhaps he should decide what it is he wants. You too seem a bit confused about what it is you want, as you say he is giving up too easily, but then you dont want him to do it either.

A good piece of advice is, where there is doubt there is no doubt - neither of you should commit till you are both sure about what you want.

Answer 4

You seem inmature. I'm asumming that both of your are either teenagers or very young adults.

A man proposes to a woman with an engagement ring. Talk is cheap and I believe that neither of you are tking this proposal serious. Him by saying it (withut a ring) in the spur pf the moment and then changing his mind, and you by not acceptin the proposal back because you KNOW that he is not serious and just want to play "engagement" when neither of you have the maturity to know what marriage is.

Move on and learn about life.

Good luck

Answer 5

Giving up to easy? Getting married should not be a fight, or an arguement to the altar. All you are marrying is one big life full of arguments. Why even think about marrying someone like that? I am asuming that you are young also because you are dealing something like this. I am also going to asume you live in a trailer to seeing as you do not know how to talk. "doin da same" its called doinG THE same.

Answer 6

Until you sort out the underlying problems in you relationship don't even consider getting engaged again. It could just be your boyfriends 'carrot to the donkey' ploy to get you back. But lets face it you weren't too sure about it in the first place. It doesn't matter how much you love the guy - listen to your gut feelings and they seem to be telling you that getting engaged/married at the moment is WRONG.

Answer 7

He probably expected you to be happy to get engaged, but it sounds like you reacted negatively. In his opinion anyway.
Think about it.
If went to a lot of trouble to give a present to someone, and they continually questioned it. How would that make you feel.
All I can say to help is that getting engaged does not mean getting married. It's just a statement of intent. It's telling each other that they are the person you would like to get married to at some point in the future.

Answer 8

I think he had brains and got fed up with your appalling grammar and spelling.Perhaps he needs an intelligent girl.

Answer 9

i think you should first define your relationship with him, then concenterate on the inwards part rather than the outward part to know if you two can cope with each other.

Answer 10

i think you both need to mature a little before you go into something as serious as a marriage.