I was taking a nap and kept hearing the door open and close got up to see what was going on and found him on the bed with no underwear or pants. My other 2 ran to the frontroom acting like nothing happened.
This is the second time I have found him doing something like this, I thought about grounding to the room for a week but it just didn't fit.
What should I do?
2006-08-03 02:20:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He just turned 13 has ADD. Once he had his brother kiss him down there.
My other two are 7 and 9 excuse me for saying but I whipped them. I think they would know better.
2006-08-03 03:31:21 · update #1
I had a similar situation with my son at about the same age, I talked to his Dr. and a Child Psychologist, I was told not to make a huge deal out of it, it is more often than not normal. He needs to understand that this is not appropriate behavior but what he is feeling is normal. He has a natural curosity of his body and the sensations he feels. He shouldn't be made to feel dirty or different, it happens all the time (so I'm told) it's just we talk about things more than 30 yrs ago and things that were considered normal then are not seen the same way now. My son is now 19 and is normal and healthy and open in every way. My younger children didn't suffer any ill effects, but at the time I did explain to them it isn't appropriate behavior but normal and they would feel things similar when the time came. Every child is different and so is every situation but in the big picture it isn't a big deal and no it doesn't mean he'll grow up and be a molester, it just means he's a normal healthy teenage boy. Have a talk with him, but relax, he's fine.
2006-08-03 05:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by lee 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? Under 7 or 8 I wouldn't worry too much about it - just a curious child or possibly seeking attention. Just tell him he is embarassing the others and yo would like him to stop. Over 12 or 13ish and his motives or more likely to be sexual and you should be questioning him carefully on why he considers this to be acceptable behaviour. Between those two ages is when the child needs to be gently guided into fitting into society's norms regarding conduct of this kind. I personally think that grounding wouldn't be an appropriate punishment, he just needs education.
2006-08-03 09:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by svensjr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first are sure that's all he is doing and not trying to do something with your other kids. If he is 3-10 he needs an *** whooping (NOW I didnt say beat him to death) if you don't teach him right from wrong between those ages know telling what he will be doing past 10 grounding a child doesn't work taking away their games, TV, outside, friends coming over, and telephone is a killer. Making a child stay in their room is cruelty. All I got to say is start chastising NOW
2006-08-03 09:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by best_mommy_ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their has to be some "reason" why he is doing this. You can try sitting down and asking him calmly ask why are you doing this what's the reason for this behavior. Try talking to your kid before you just ground him sounds to me like he's reaching out "For What" I don't know.
Could also be for some reason he likes being nude just like some people hate to wear shoes. I work with a guy who can't stand to wear shoes for some reason.
Be open minded and understand even if you ask he most likely wont tell you the truth not because he want's to lie but maybe he just cant tell his mom.
Good luck "Keep an open mind" ;-)
2006-08-03 09:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by grande alacrán 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old your son is. If he's under 7 years old.. you just need to explain to him that it is not aceptable behavior and that he needs to stop. If he's older then that, you need to have a deeper talk with him. Or, is his father around? If he is an older child then his father would probably be better at talking to him and trying to find out why your son is doing this.
2006-08-03 09:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by CG234 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with him and have a discussion about privacy and why they're called "private parts". He needs to understand that some people may be offended by the exposure and that if he does it to the wrong person one day, something bad could happen.
I would discuss it with his doctor, too.
2006-08-03 09:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by pynkbyrd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old he is. You shouldn't punish him, you might give him the wrong idea about intercourse. Its perfectly NORMAL for children to wonder about each other, and find their body parts. Just explain to him, some things are to be done in private and alone. Kids are naturally curious about each other and things around them.
2006-08-03 09:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by someone_unperfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he imitating someone? In the family? Talk to him very calmly and nice and ask where he learned that behavior. DO NOT PUNISH HIM. Reward him after a nice talk.
2006-08-03 09:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Answer King 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the age of the child. 5 and younger probably don't realize it's inappropriate. You need to talk to a younger child and tell him his parts are for his eyes only and that no one else is allowed to see them. If it continues, spank. 6 and over, auto spanking. They should know better, and if they don't, you have no one to blame but yourself.
2006-08-03 09:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he is between 2 and 10 forget it, he will. over 10 and its time for THE sit down talk!
2006-08-03 09:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by Nimbus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋