Should i meet him?

Question

I met a guy on the internet about 3 mths ago just after my husband left me and my 3 kids.We have been talking on the phone for about 2 mths now and have gotten to know each other very well now he wants to meet should I?

Answer 1

Hey, this man has made the effort for two months, surely he could get sex elsewhere without the effort, so you arent just a booty call!
Make sure you tell a friend where you are meeting him, what time, when you are coming home and ring her when you are back. Also get them to ring you in the middle of your 'date' to check he is ok. You can also set up a 'get out of it' plan, so if there is a problem she can meet you.
Good luck, lets hope he is nicer than your ex!

Answer 2

Oh yes, you certainly should meet, I met my guy through internet dating, and he is the best thing ever, I have a child too, and he has also met her now! Just as people have said before, just be careful. You haven't mentioned if you have a pic of him, but if you haven't make that step first so you know that there is a big possibility that you will find him attractive, and then if you still want to meet, go for it and enjoy. My confidence after 2 serious failed relationships is booming now, so you have 2 choices sit on your own at home and never meet anyone, or take the risks in life, it may be that you don't fancy the guy when you meet him anyway, so you have nothing to lose, only something to gain, plus your own self worth. So be safe, but have fun, and let us know how it all goes.....Good Luck, you are just beginning your life again....

Answer 3

Well i did and it worked out absolutely brilliant for me. Be very careful though, as i never thought i'd meet someone from the internet. If you don't have a webcam, and haven't actually seen him then the answer is no i don't think you should. If you are still intending to meet him though, meet in a public place and TELL someone where and when you're going to meet him, and tell them to phone you after about an hour to make sure everythings ok.

Answer 4

I met my husband on the internet - through eharmony.com and a friend of mine married a man that she met through a chat site - so not all internet dating stories are horror stories.

I think there is nothing wrong with meeting him - but don't bring him into your home just yet. Meet him somewhere public for dinner or a drink. Then proceed as you would with any man that you met in any other fashion.

It is good to be cautious at first, especially since you have children, but as you get to know him follow your heart and your gut. Your instincts will most likely tell you if something is wrong.

Answer 5

Go for it! Don't make it personal though. Make sure it is in a public place whether it is a restaurant or shopping mall or amusement park...whatever! And always do your own driving! That way if he is crazy he can't abduct you when he picks you up. Yes, each of you taking your own car is a good idea. After you meet him face to face you will better be able to asses the type of person you think that you know he is. Also...you have kids...it wouldn't be a bad idea to introduce them on the second date. I mean they are a permanent attachment of you so you should get a feel for his tolerance. Make it a "family" type of outing...maybe the aquarium or an amusement park.

Answer 6

That's a question that could very well be answered by yourself. But in my opinion, I think you all should meet at the mall somewhere just a couple of times and then maybe you can introduce him to your kids. The internet is filled with many pedophiles and you really don't want those types of peoples around your life especially if you have kids! A pedophile could talk to you for months without you knowing what they really are. SOOOO be careful!!

Answer 7

I CANT BELIEVE SOME OF THE ANSWERS!!! Yes GO meet him and make sure you take a friend and the second time make sure you meet him in a public place again with your friends having the details
KEEP THE CHILDREN OUT OF IT AND DONT DISCUSS THEM untill you really suss him out that could take at least SIX MONTHS
DONT INVOLVE YOUR CHILDREN if any thing bad where to happen guarranteed everyone would say ou are an unfit mother
So enjoy yourself but dont get any children involved for another six monts

Answer 8

As long as ur careful and follow all the usual guidelines like meeting in a public place etc i cant see why you shouldnt meet him!
Hope you end up with a great relationship together, it would be good to hear that it has worked out for u both.
Good luck
xx

Answer 9

Invite him to a party. This way you won't be alone with him and you also have the added benefit of having your friends meet him too so you can get their unbiased opinion of him.

But be very careful... if this guy turns out to be psycho you have your kids to worry about too. So don't invite him to your house and don't give him your address.

And as silly as it sounds, it might not be a bad idea to ask for a personal reference. Employers do it, so why not potential dates. Ask if he has a friend that he can offer as a personal reference, speak to that person to try to get a feel for if this person really is who they claim to be. If he can't come up with one then it's a big warning sign. If he objects to it, he probably has something to hide. And if he'll gives you a good reference and everything turns out fine, you'll have something to laugh about later on.

Answer 10

If you have to meet, make it in a public area and ob no account be alone for the first few meets. Don;t forget he may be used to doing this and able to take people in with his talk.Always let someone know where you are.There are a lot of weido's out there.Take care!