why do people cheat on their wife.so wehy get married if they are not ready.?

Question

I just want to know why

Answer 1

insecurity, unhappiness, bad parenting

Answer 2

Cheating happens both ways, and it's not a matter of not being ready to get married (most of the time). Usually something happens: there's a lot of stress, or something's bothering them, and no one talks about it. Tension builds, and they just aren't attracted anymore. Like there's a wall there. I think it would happen less if people kept an open line of trust and communication. Sadly, some people blame not talking on busy lifes. There are even cases where both people work at different times and almost never see each other. You feel lost, and hopeless, and begin to ache for a companion. The one you married just doesn't seem to be there. And you wander to temptation. And then they come up with a whole host of reasons not to get divorced. Really, it's a personal matter, and many different people will do it for different reasons and come up with different excuses. I'm no marriage counselor, and I haven't studied human relations (most of my focus has been in child psychology). So this is just based on what I've seen. At least it's an idea.

Answer 3

I don't agree with cheating but there may be circumstances in your life where you feel your spouse isn't treating you or loving you the way you need and it opens you up to getting such love and treatment somewhere else.

If your unhappy and you can't respect the sanctity of your marriage which is a expected of you, then you should get a divorce because obviously the person can't respect or honor their wedding vows.

People cheat for all reasons. Say your a good man and your mate is very disrespectful , have a nasty attitude, don't work for the better of the marriage, have selfish ways, basically have a personality that isn't attractive and hard to get along with, enough of this type of attributes will make any man look for a outlet of some peace and comfort in his life.

Woman cheat to. I have met woman that when they had a man that treated them terrible and like dirt, they were the ones trying to hold on to the relationship by doing whatever the man wanted whether good or bad.

Then some of those same woman meet a good man who truly cares , then they take advantage of their kindness and treat them bad.

So it all depends upon the individual why they cheat.

Answer 4

I think you are so right, if you dont think you can be with this person anymore than why stay and put them in hell just leave them there has to be a reason why you are looking for someone else. It seems like so many people do not have any respect for them or the other person they are with. Where are all the Morals??

Answer 5

Part of it is people are really bad at this important thing called "communication".

I find it saddening that two people that love each other can't work up the courage to simply talk to each other about what they want and what they need. There are ways to make life adventurous in that respect, ways to make sure that you feel appreciated and loved. Many times, its the little things in life.

So to directly answer your 1st question, there is actually no one right answer.

There isn't one right answer to the second one either; people do seem to have this tendency to think that marriage will solve certain issues inbetween them. I wouldn't count on it.

Answer 6

Humans are not monogamous by nature and a lot of people have a hard time being monogamous... Plus it is awfully boring to have sex with the same person all your life... I wouldn't mind for my partner to hgave sex with other people as long as we have an understanding that we are going to be together and do anything for each other and love each other...

Answer 7

i think the reasons vary and i think there are many reasons why. not getting what you need or want, be it sex,compassion,attention,affection,and the list goes on. boredom maybe you have been with this person so long that everything seems the same. infatuation or lust maybe you see this beautiful women and you just have a uncontrollable desire to be with her. or maybe you are just a lieng cheating piece of crap.

Answer 8

People get married because they can't resist the temptation...but then after the marriage...they regret. Life becomes boring...so cheating their wife brings fun in their LIVES!

Answer 9

From my understanding and this comes from experience. Most men cheat because they aren't getting what they desire at home. It has nothing to do with not being ready

Answer 10

most men cheat on their wives and they will always blame the woman for doing so ( she is not attractive/fat doesnt look after me doesnt understand me). if a wife cheat son her husband its a different story!!! the husband will only blame her saying she is a *****. and its the same mentallity all over this world.

Answer 11

people are strange and dont know what they want, when they are with someone they think they are the one but if they sleep with someone else they usually have a change of heart that doesnt mean they dont love us