Is my sister a jackass if...??

Question

She is 24 yrs old and lives at home with her parents. She delivers pizzas in a pretty seedy section of town, so her job can be risky. She never came home from work...never called and didnt asnwer calls on her cell phone. She showed up at about 9 or 10 the next morning. Even though she is an adult my mother was very worried. I tried to talk to her about it and she showed off the major chip on her shoulder and acted like she was on some 007 mission.

I think for her to be living at home at her age...the fact that she doesnt contribute one iota to the household and her complete lack of disrespect from voices of reason makes her a big JACKASS! Anyone in agreement?

HAHAHA she is a loser...she, quite frankley, going for management as a pizza wench. Has nothing to do with saving money or college. she likes ppl to pay her bills and put a roof over her head and walk all over them in the process.

...and no...I'm not "jillass" or jealous as some ppl would think. I am not jealous of someone who lives with their parents and does not have their life together OR ***** on her mom and dad for that matter. :)

Answer 1

that doesnt make her a jackass, just pretty pathetic.

Answer 2

Your Sister has a responsibility to your mother to act like an adult, not a child. What your mother should do is pack your stuff up and have it by the door the next time she comes home. Tell her that if she what to stay out all night then she can find another place to live because this is not a hotel that lets you come and go as you please. That way your mother won't have to worry about her. So your sister has a chose to act like an adult and at less call your mother and tell her whats going on (a call at a desist hour not 2:00 am) or she can start paying rent somewhere else. So Yes, she acting like a Jackass.

Answer 3

No i do not agree...
First of all your sister might have trouble to control her hormones, sounds funny... but is it not at all!
Second, she feels guilty, believe me. That is also the reason, that she is avoiding any proper confrontation, on that topic.
Third, she might be very unhappy with her life, and probably feels like a looser.
I guess it would be the best for your sister, and the whole family, if she would stay separate. It's nothing bad, or that you do not want her around... it is just on time for her. She wants to have her own life, so usually the first step for that is to have an own house. Maybe she had this idea already, but can not effort an apartment yet?

Instead of calling your own sister jacka$s, try to understand her, and to help her. And to help, does not mean to do whatever she wants, but to act for her best.

Answer 4

If this was my 24 year old daughter and living under my roof.. and does not respect me or the rules of the house.. then she needs to find another place to live... I have 4 adult children and they all live on their own.. which I am happy because the less I know the less I worry...

Answer 5

actually a lot of people don't move out until after college, if they go to college in the area.
if she isn't going to school, is she at least setting goals for herself? i haven't left home, i'm 20, and just starting to work on my high school diploma, but i have high hopes and dreams and goals set for myself. I know for a fact i will not be in my parents house by the time i'm 25, i even just turned down a pizza delivery job, i don't like working with food at all, it makes me feel like i'm still 16 (no offenmce, i just worked the food industry when i first started to work)
and she doesn't contribute to house work? she should, she's living there after all. really there isn't anything you could say to make her save up money and leave, she has to do that on her own, or have your parents set down strick guidlines in order for her to stay, until she can leave that is.
I've seen the 50 year old living at home with their mom, in fact there's one across the street from me, he sells pot now. yeah. he can't even get a job. it's sad, and i know that he could have avoided that years ago but didn't try to. there is always opportunities.

Answer 6

i would say yes.
she is being very inconsiderate. allthough she is 24. it is a respect issue. my daughter just moved out at 23 and she would always let me know if she wasnt going to be home. whether by phone or by a note.
also i never asked for money for bills or household items, but she always offered some or put a few dollars in my drawer, because she knows it is very costly to run a home.
your sister needs to grow up or get thrown out and maybe she would learn responsibility.

Answer 7

Yes. One should always have the courtesy to let their parents know if they are not going to be coming home at night, especially if they are going to a dangerous area regularly. It has nothing to do with independence or having your parents check up on you, it's just the polite thing to do. I would have been worried too. Of course, I would be charging her for rent at 24 too.

Answer 8

Yep, she's not ripe. Don't be surprised if you get a call that something has happened to her.

She either needs to pitch in for the rent and all the other goodies that involve being an adult, or your folks can let her continue to be a mooching loser.

Answer 9

She seems to be immature, but no matter what we think...she being a jackass or not...won't change anything. The person who should be talking to her about this is her mother or her father if he's around. Parents putting the proverbial foot down is what is needed in this situation. Their motto is my rules or your own place.

Answer 10

Yes, even if she cannot afford to live on her own and she is living in with the parents, she should have the respect to call and tell everyone she is okay.

Answer 11

my sister is the exact same way. She is 22, two kids from two diffrent guys, living at home with our parents, and contributes nothing. She and your sister also are jackasses.