sad for events that you are no longer a part of, a life that you are no longer a part of,a dream that died...
I have tried to remain friends,we do the message thing,we no longer see each other physically and i have a new man who i am starting to develop deep feelings for,but every time a song comes on the radio,that was my ex's fav i get all teary and sad...there has to be a time when there wont be any more pain,my mums big suggestion was to harden my heart,but if you do that you will have no love for any one.I know the pain is part of the healing but when does it stop...there is no love left,just the memory of it....
2006-08-03 01:31:35 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ex is ex....go look for some fresh sex
2006-08-03 01:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Monsh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being silly - it's nice to have the grandkids around on special occasions. And it's normal to feel both - understanding about her dad's visit and sad she couldn't be there. How about this - give her mom some money. Mom can "give" it to your granddaughter and suggest granddaughter take grandma to lunch on your daughter's week. May be a late birthday thing for you. But you could spend a nice couple of hours with just you and your granddaughter. Who knows - might become an annual tradition for just the 2 of you. That would be lovely.
2016-03-16 12:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww...you sound very sad and i think you still love that guy...i think it's probably him who dumped you right? Why don't you try harder to ask him out or something...if that doesn't work you should just forget about him and concentrate on your new guy...maybe then you'll find out that your new guy isn't really that bad (or even better than your ex?)...i know it's very hard to not feel sad since you feel so much about him...but as time go by i'm sure you'll find your prince charming...
2006-08-11 00:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by lalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard at times to stop thinking about your ex but beleive me it does get easier after awhile.The memories you have of him are so deep and I think you are scared to let him go as you and him where happy. If you move on with your life you will find some one just like him but will love you just as much. If you don't let go you won't find anyone so you can"t move on with your life. You will get emotional at times when you hears songs, do something or read something as you have so many memories of him.
2006-08-03 01:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is all you have, the memory ... (and the odd knick-knack memento)
It is what you will take from the relationship and hopefully what will teach you to be a better person in your next relationship. Your ex has been a sounding board or a mirror ... someone who has interacted with you and knows a lot about you (hopefully) and about whom you know a lot...
Listen to the song, smile sadly and remember... and learn for next time.
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(ps. it's not about avoiding pain... it's not about seeking pain either... pain comes when we have a problem... we need to find the problem and fix it. If we get good, next time it's not so painful cos it's not such a problem)
2006-08-03 01:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/zNG6L
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-25 22:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my youngest daughter was born, 13 days later my husband passed away. Its been 3 yrs now. You anwered your own question, there is no love left, just the memories. Even though those memories make you cry they will make you smile also. All part n parcel. I dont think they ever go away. Maybe some time out for yourself when this occurs. We all need to harden our hearts sometimes but your feelings are true and meaningful, dont loose that or you loose alot more of who you really are.
2006-08-03 01:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by littlvic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa..that's a lot of thinking..well yeah sure it must be tough on ya...but who knows maybe u got something better planned out for you...and the fact that u care about ur relationships even though it is a part of ur past shows that u respect your feelings and are honest to urself......and we never stop loving we just stop showing and another more important person takes a more important place in our heart..... so hang in there and try to find happiness with this new person
2006-08-03 01:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by bernini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep remembering that ex's were ex's for a reason.
Either you left him or he left you for 1 reason or another you just have to remember that It wasnt RIGHT.
If the day itself still bugs you.Go do something for yourself on that day. Go get a massage , go to a movie ,go out to a club something to keep your mind off it.
2006-08-03 01:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you girl, am in a situation as yours and each day i hope he comes back when i see or hear something that reminds me of him, i guess you just have to try and focus more on what you now have, not whats in the past
2006-08-10 23:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life goes on. Don’t waste your time. You will regret it eventually. There are many fishes in the sea
2006-08-10 23:39:21 · answer #11 · answered by sampaul21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋