Is it worth it or should i forget it?

Question

Told my boyfriend that i loved him and he didn;t say it back. He said he has strong feelings for me but doesn't love me yet, Am i wasting my time?
We have been together about three months.

Answer 1

One thing women really need to grasp is that men simply do not think like women ....... they can be loyal, reliable, funny, great to be with and affectionate .... but they are simply different from women insofar that women need to tell their partners they love them and need to be told that back. That is a fact. The problem here is that men simply don't 'do' the 'I love you' bit ... they may say it, and they probably mean it, because they know it's what you want to hear, but they simply don't have the emotional kit to say it as a matter of course. And those, like your own man, that would rather not commit those little words at this stage, are only being true to you by not saying it purely to muster a good response. Give your guy time, keep telling him you love him and he will fall into line soon .... hey, after all, he is only a man .... give him a break!

Answer 2

Oh, you shouldn't leeave him just yet!
It's good that he has strong feelings for you, that means it's going somewhere & will most likely keep going.
three months is rather early to fall inlove, but i've fallen for someone sooner than that, so i understand.

Stay in the relationship. If he hasn't loved you by a year or something like that, then leave him..because he never will.
But there's nothnig at all to worry about, simpley

give him time. & don't force anything on him, it will not work.

Answer 3

Love and Feeling go together how can he has feelings but not love ,give him some time but if he doesn't respond next time then move on,some times feelings go with sexuality,at the end of the day the decision is yours,we can give you advice but we can not decide for you,Good Luck

Answer 4

If you want marriage and babies by the end of the week, dump him - it's not happening.

If you want to hang out, have some fun, go some places and enjoy his company, keep with him for a while and see where things lead.

Three months is really early for a guy to say 'I love you'.

Answer 5

no your not wasting your time. when my fiance told me he loved me, i didnt say it straight back because i wanted to make sure i was feeling the same and it took me a few months to actually say it. when i did eventually say it i knew i meant it and not just because he said it to me.

maybe your boyfriend feels the same way. give him time. if after a while he still doesnt feel the same way, then maybe he just wants a friendship and nothing more. good luck.

Answer 6

Like the oldtart says it is much too early yet for you to know if you love one another,
Enjoy the moment and see how things go.
Be careful it is very easy lo fall in love with someone but sometimes you may not like them.

Answer 7

i cant judge you if you really love him or is it just lust?? i mean the first 6months at least is pure in love and craving and the crazy stuff, as the time goes on love will find you both and it will be there but not that soon, your not wasting your time just back off a little be patient i mean he is yours the rest will come at the right time.

Answer 8

Dont rush it! Its only been three months.... If you push him he will run off, let it be, your man will say those words when he feels the time is right, and in 10 years time when he still hasnt said it CHUCK HIM!!!!

Answer 9

It's good that he is being honest with you. 3 months isn't really all that long. I'd respect him for honest and realise that is a good base for a potential relationship. Hang in there a bit linger I think.

Answer 10

just hold out for a while ! this is not unusual, he probably dont love you that strongly just yet! dont ask him if he loves you ! cus you will just make him feel ablidge to say yes ! so just wait till he says it to you ! then it will feel good and then at least you know he means it ! goodluck , i have the same prob !!!!! eamil me if you like [e-mail]