I love my bf a lot, he is supportive, kind, fun to be with, we are happy together...although like many couples we have had our ups and downs...but after 6 years of being together..I just don't see it going anywhere...he hasn't asked to marry me although he knows I am ready. There are days where all we talk about is a future together and then when I actually talk to him about marriage he just thinks I am pressuring him and am in a rush...but after 6 yrs..that would be the next step right? Should I wait until he asks or move on...I care about him a lot and love him very much but marriage is very important to me and I am really ready for the next step in this relationship. I am 25, he is 27...and I know many people think its young, and he has a decent job, and so I am not sure...if I can wait any longer than another year or so.
2006-08-03 01:06:55 · 8 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants to wait another 3 or 4 years before getting married.
2006-08-03 01:07:45 · update #1
Many people suggest that I should rush this...but he has know that I have been ready to marry him from the 3 year mark...I have wait 3 years for him to ask and he still hasn't asked....I understand you shouldn't rush a guy...but what about me? Am I selfish? Or do my needs not matter since it's up to guy to ask a girl to marry him.
2006-08-03 01:14:50 · update #2
CORRECTIONS: Many people suggest that I SHOULDN'T rush this...but he has known that I have been ready to marry him from the 3 year mark...I have wait 3 years for him to ask and he still hasn't asked....I understand you shouldn't rush a guy...but what about me? Am I selfish? Or do my needs not matter since it's up to guy to ask a girl to marry him.
Furthermore, we don't live together.
2006-08-03 01:18:40 · update #3
if you have to question strangers, the answer is NO!!!
2006-08-03 01:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by pitbullcopper2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it worth throwing away the 6 years you've had together just for that? Would it not be better to wait until you can be with him? Is a relationship not made on compramise and self sacrafice?
I think you should wait for him - but equally he should be more compramising too, and perhaps lower his 2 or 3 years, if he knows that he will marry you then, then why not sooner? Even so perhaps he views marriage as a bigger step than you do, it means you're finally grown up and have to be sensible, maybe he just wants to have a bit more time being an irresponsible 20 something before he settles down.
If you love him enough to marry him would you leave him because he won't indulge your will? If so then that's pretty selfish.
2006-08-03 08:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by Mordent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that young.
He can't seem to make his mind up.
Are you two living together? If so, then tell him it's been 6 years, & if he's not ready to make the next step, then you're not gonig to waste anymore time.
It's not too much of a rush, 6 years is a very long time. If he's not 100% sure now, he never will be.
2006-08-03 08:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with women these days is that they enter into a live-in (defacto) relationship and then tie the knot.
Men not necessarily think the same way. For them, living together for this length of time put them into their comfort zone. Marriage, after living together, is not an attractive proposition 'cos it's going to cost him/you both money. The fuss, etc.
Also they have 'tasted' their ware. It is like asking them to buy something they already have and probably getting a little tire of!
My view is - you have the right to ask for marriage. He is not ready, you leave the relationship. If you meant a lot to him, he will go along with your desire and respect it. I think your ask is fair. Good luck!
2006-08-03 08:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by joeblog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really shoudn't rush these things. wait for him. love takes time. if the two of you get married to soon and he feels he's not yet ready, it's going to screw the two of you up. no one wants that.
2006-08-03 08:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by animegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just using you, until something better comes along. Wake up.
2006-08-03 08:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he is comfortable the ways things are now...if you push you may loose him...are you ready for that
2006-08-03 08:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by my4boyz1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2006-08-03 08:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by cirdellin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋