i'm a virgin. and i am with this girl, right? it is all innocent with holding her and stuff. but sometimes i feel like doing things for her. i feel bad thinking like this because i respect her and don't want to rush things but i just feel like giveing her the best feeling i can manage without actual intercorse.
is it bad to want to go down on her even though it is something i'm not in a rush for?
2006-08-03 00:57:07 · 16 answers · asked by This Guy right Here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. If you're not in a rush then it would be wrong. We read the same advice given to women on this site multiple times a day:
"If he loves you he'll wait. Don't let anyone push you into something you don't want to do. Wait- it will be better. You're virginity is the best gift you can give to someone and you only get to give it once. Don't let him pressure you and if he does dump him, he's not worth it. Wait until YOU'RE ready."
And I offer all of those words back to you. Just because you're a guy doesn't make the advice any less great, any different, or any less applicable.
2006-08-03 01:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect...means respecting her WISHES.
If a woman WANTS to go there with you... and you DON'T, that's more disrespect than respect.
Many men, especially younger men... have been taught to RESPECT a woman... with the implication it means: Don't try to put a move on her. That's appropriate if she's very young, or she is not INTERESTED in pushing the envelope on more intimate contact.
HOWEVER... GOOD communications, verbal and otherwise... will let you know if RESPECT means "No" or RESPECT means "YOU BETTER, AND SOON".
Before I knew this... I lost a couple of girlfriends... RESPECTING THEM. I later found out, that they moved on, because they were tired of waiting for what they wanted, and weary of throwing hints that were "IGNORED" to gain their respect.
Respect...is doing what's right for the individual you're respecting. Not necessarily NOT doing it.
2006-08-03 08:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? That has a lot to do with it. Don't rush into anything, remember you can get a STD even doing that. The girls above me are young and immature.
2006-08-03 08:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...it's good that you respect her enough, but what i've learned (although it kinda kills the mood) you should talk to your girl and see what she's says. If you can't even talk to her you shouldn't even think about messing around with her.
2006-08-03 08:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pl do make up your mind and do what ever you feel good , better take more time in relations .
2006-08-03 08:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys eat at the "Y". Go down boy, go down!
2006-08-03 08:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by Marshal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal, natural....follow your instinct while maintaining decency, that's what most of the human beings have done for millions of years.
enjoy life
2006-08-03 08:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by Monsh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok-buy her flowers and dinner first-trust me-she prolly wants some action too
2006-08-03 07:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no!no!
its not bad.
u wrote u'are a nice guy so u'are a nice guy and u'are ok for her and dont worry.
2006-08-03 08:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O_o Try asking her what she wants ^^ she
† I STILL LOVE GOD
2006-08-03 08:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Bryan F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋