Seriously. I have my own problems and I deal with people who have some rather severe problems... but her problems, while severe on the surface, come off as a mere grab for attention to me. I have tried to offer solid advice in the past and I got rebuffed by defensiveness and "I'm fine's" before the cycle of it all started again. Everyone seems fooled... and I'm thinking that there may be a slight chance that I am cold hearted... but it all seems off to me. What to do?
2006-08-03 00:46:35 · 7 answers · asked by Whatev' Yo' 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sad to say, some people are plain SELF INDULGENT. I bet if you pull the same **** on her, she'll never be there for you. Quit nursing her emotional wounds and leave her be! Like what you've said, you've got your own problems too. Just mind your own affairs and leave her to dramatize her problems on her own. As aptly quoted from Shakespeare, 'The world's a stage...' everyone has a role...but her role's specifically the jester's.
2006-08-03 00:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by citrusy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your name is a game. But do not worry. You keep it up. Do not get offensive or defensive in life. Take it as it comes. Do not get frustrated. I do go thro' this stuff myself. There are variety of people having problems with their spouses / children / extra-marital affairs / girl friends. You name it and they have it. But when it's my turn to talk, they just get offended or lose interest. But you know, whatever happens, it is for your own good. When you start thinking this way, then you become positive about this moment, and then the situation changes, that's called Paradigm shift. And then you feel happy about everything because you know its happening on the surface and not beneath. where it's all peace and its all GODLY.
2006-08-03 08:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mani G.India 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
If this is happening in a work area then you should escalate this issue to the higher ups or even you can approach the ethics comitte to help you out in this regard.Becoz no employee has the right to violate the code of conduct employed by the company so just goahead to the ethics comitte and discuss with them.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-03 07:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by jfreezee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nod while they are talking and then say that you're really sorry that their live isn't going well at the moment but you really have to finish this or that project. Then offer to meet them for coffee or something after work if they really need to talk. If they accept, wait until the end of the day and cancel. (Ie. I'm sorry, I forgot I have to pick up someone at the airport. I'm sorry I forgot I had plans with someone and I just can't cancel)
2006-08-03 07:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her to buzz off ..if you thik that she is a drama mamma someone else will think so too... dun think that you are cold hearted cos i have a feeling that yr colleagues are just hearing not listening to whatever she is saying.
2006-08-03 08:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by gwen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just yawn whenever she talks about her problem. Then maybe you can bore her with yours, and it could send her away!!!???
2006-08-03 07:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by joeblog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could say "I'm sorry, I'm really busy right now and I can't talk." Or just tell her the truth "I really don't care. Please stop talking."
2006-08-03 07:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by qwerty456 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋