Should I ask my Mum to tell me abou my biological father?

Answer 1

OK..I AM 27 YEARS OLD AND MY MOTHER NEVER TOLD MY BIOLOGICAL FATHER ABOUT ME AND I FINALLY GOT HER TO TELL ME AND I FOUND HIM3 WEEKS AGO. IT IS OUR RIGHT AND HER DUTY TO TELL YOU, NOT TO MENTION FOR HEALTH REASONS ALSO. NOBODY SHOULD HAVE TO GO THROUGH LIFE NOT KNOWING WHAT ELSE IS OUT THERE AND IF YOU HAVE A FAMILY THAT DOESNT EVEN KNOW ABOUT YOU. YOU SHOULD DEFINITLY KNOW.

Answer 2

Yes, if you are curious, it's probably time to. But she isn't obliged to tell you, and, even if she answers, don't take 100% of what you hear for truth. My parents divorced when I was not yet three; the stories I eventually have about the event, from my mother, my father, and both sets of grandparents are so different that I have given up, at 25, any hope to know what really happened. It doesn't matter, either - it's in the past and it cannot be changed now.

Answer 3

10 years ago i would have said go for it you have a right to know. But now 10 years older ALLOT wiser and now know the full circumstances of my conception i would say some stones are deffinately better left unturned.

Query with your bio mum the details and ask her her views on if she thinks its worth your while to contact him.

But do remember as much as all you can see now is putting the last piece of the puzzle together.. Sometimes its better not too bother.

Weigh up all the pros and cons to this and if you still want to trace get in touch with me and i can give you all links and sites to help with a trace!!!

I hope this finds you well and remember its not how you were born its the person you want to be that matters!!!

Big hug...

Answer 4

ask her about what happended.
if you are ready to ask and deal with the consequences ie - he might not have wanted your mum to have you etc then ask.

Please do not judge your mother for what ever happened - its water under the bridge.

If you then want to search for him and your mum has no idea where he might be try friends reunited (your mum may know where he went to school) and you can put a message on there searching for him. Also Summerset house in london holds all the birth/death/marriage records in england and you might be able to search to see if he has had more children or married.

Good luck and I hope you get the results you are after. x x

Answer 5

Yes of course but remember, You may not like what you hear. Maybe your mum wants to tell you but thinks as you haven't asked before then you'd rather not know. I'm sure she has been expecting you to ask at some point so she will be well prepared. Good luck.

Answer 6

Only if you want to know. Don't feel you have to know if you don't want to, it's your choice.

I hope your Mum gives a balanced view of your Dad, she may hate him because their relationship ended badly but that's still no excuse for neglecting to tell you his good points. Everyone has good and bad points and there must have been some good ones in him for your Mum to marry him and have children. Get the balanced version...not the biased one!

Answer 7

Speaking as a mother myself I am sorry she did not come to you first or at least make you feel at ease that you have every right to want to know every detail if that is what you choose. You need to demand to know anything and everything. Regardless of the answers be it good or bad as this is your birth right.
Good luck and remember there are sperm donors and there are fathers.

Answer 8

You have a right to know explain to your mum you are curious and want to know about your other side of the family. she may not want to tell you. If she doesnt and you know his name or member of family may tell you then if old enough you can try track him down your self.He may not know you exist either so be careful don't get your hopes up as he also may have another family and doesnt want to know. Think carefully first before making rash decisions. wiush you the best.

Answer 9

Hi, if you want to know then of course you should, because you have the right to know because at the end of the day he is part of you even though things might be a little difficault. Just ask her and see what she says. There is no harm in it.

Answer 10

You can just get a copy of your birth certificate. I t will state on it who your father is. then you can search for him on the Internet. but you should find out what kind of a relationship your Mother and Father had. she may not ever want to see him again.you may be throwing a log on a fire she wishes would just go out. and it may even get her mad at you. good luck. and always think of the consequences of your actions be fore you do something.

Answer 11

Hey Tatoogrey...
How old are you? Will knowing your biological father's name effect you, your mom or your dad? is it worth going through all that pain? If yes...then ask...