although we live together just over 1 year only really see one another weekends how can i make him pay more attention to me other than computer we are both in our 40s
2006-08-02 23:28:05 · 13 answers · asked by miss tigger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you two spend a lots of time at home by yourselves and nobody else. You need to organise gatherings of friends and family perhaps and bring him into it even if he initially say mmmm I dont know. Specially now its a best time to do barbecue and wine with friends and family. You need to see what he likes and admire about other women either on the street and/or telly etc. ie. clothese look, tartieness etc. Dont just copy those women, but get yourself some sexy clothes including underwear etc. but wear them without keeping an eye on him to see his reaction as you give the game away. Try to act naturally and get out with your friends without him but let him see you getting ready humming your favourite song, doing your make up and putting on your new sexy clothes etc. Try acting as if you are really happy with your new life style. He get suspicious and jealous and frightened that he might be losing you and if he has any feelings towards you which I guess he has, living with you and all that, he will start to change his style and give you little bit more attention, but dont let things slip back to where they were as soon as he gave you tiny bit attention because he start getting comfy again. I think he is feeling too comfortable and taking things for granted now. Make some changes. good luck
2006-08-04 04:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by one_faithful_mo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I are both in our 40's too. Since we got our PC, I have been addicted. I spend a lot of time on it. I didn't know a darn thing about them when we got it ( I didn't even know how to turn it on! ) I wasn't the one who wanted one. However, I was intrigued by it, so I sat day after day till I learned how to operate it. My husband never complained. I remember saying "If I'm on this thing this much a year from now, there will be a problem". That was a little over 3 years ago. I am still here a lot, but I know there are other things in life. It is up to your partner to realize this. You won't be able to "make" him spend time with you. If this is a new purchase, it should wear off. If he truly loves you and values your company, he will come around. Just remember to, that women require more attention then men, they don't need it like some women do. Give him some time, and go from there. Only you know what you will put up with and can handle, just don't go and start throwing ultimatums at him. Best wishes.
2006-08-02 23:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find yourself a hobby so that you won't resent his so much. I know that sounds harsh but believe me I'm talking from experience!
Also what I have tried since I never see my partner either is set aside an evening each week for 'Quality Time' where we go out for a meal or a quite drink or go to the cinema and we have to stick to it!
Hope that helps!!
2006-08-02 23:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by DippyGirl78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know how you feel?
Let him know exactly how you feel. Don't be whiney, be also be understanding. Be honest, communicate, and then let it go.
Try to work as a team instead of individuals. Communication is going to be key, on both ends. Sometimes you won't like what he's doing and other times he won't like what you're doing. Work through it TOGETHER.
Don't be roommates, be lovers.
2006-08-02 23:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hide the lap top.....what on earth does he need to spend so much time on it for anyway. Soooooo you're in your 40's you're not DEAD.....
Send him a provocative email.....stir him up b4 you get home from work :) LOL
2006-08-03 00:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens dear, when you get your mobility after such a long time with technology, its bound to happen. Just talk to him about this and I'm sure it will work out fine.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-02 23:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by chinchin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has found a new love, its either the laptop or someone hes talking to on it.. hard to say without more data, why dont you ask your partner?
2006-08-02 23:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Marion C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it's a lap top he got? And not a lap dancer??
2006-08-02 23:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question, I suppose it depends on what other interests you have in common.
2006-08-02 23:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bang and throw the laptop out of the window!
2006-08-02 23:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by shal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋